Feeling overwhelmed for the first time as a Black mum of mixed bubbas.

I have four beautiful mixed bubbas aged 17, 11, 3 and 2. I am starting to feel overwhelmed for
The first time as their mama. My 17 year old identifies as black, my 11 year old is disabled and doesn’t understand and now I am panicking as a their mum as I was raised and live in a predominantly white area which never bothered me. Majority of my village are white. Thing is I was really young when I had my daughter so was clueless what it looked like to
Raise a biracial mixed child. My son doesn’t comprehend yet due to his disability. Now my youngest are 3 and 2 I am beginning to worry esp as I have joined a couple of parents to mixed groups and I am clueless and the terminology is so confusing. Basically,
I am panicking. Pleas help! I don’t even know where to start.

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Hey I’m mixed and my mum is black. I’d probably say I identified as black mixed race due to being raised with a black mother and family. I know I’m mixed and love being mixed, also proud of my Irish heritage. I have 2 mixed girls (white dad). My eldest is 7 and is a gorgeous brown similar to me. My baby is blonde hair and blue eyes. I’m learning how to navigate them being so different and my eldest asking why. Also people asking questions (that don’t concern them) but I also understand the interest. I was raised in London which is very multicultural so I never felt different. I’ve lived in Kent a long time and thank god it’s caught up a little with the times and my daughters aren’t made to feel like outsiders (both born in kent). It’s tough to sometimes know what the correct terminology as it changes but it’s also good to know to also correct others. Feel free to message me xx

Girl I feel you. My eldest is the only mixed one in the house and has no contact with his dad. He’s 7 and has said he is brown and not the same is the rest of us 😔
Most of the times i say we’re all black but he says “we are not the same colour” and deep down i know hes right 🤷🏾‍♀️

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8dpo i swear I can see the faintest of lines but was so hard to pick up on camera.
Im may be delusional 😂 and being too hopeful.
But who knows going to retest in the morning

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I took this photo straight after testing. I don’t know if you can see a faint line too? I will post a photo of the test that was taken 15 minutes later. Texted again with a different brand and it was negative - I checked the leaflet and the one I used today has sensitivity od 25mlU/ml and the one in the photo is 10mlU/ml

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Me and my fiancé want to start TTC our second baby after our wedding in September. I am still breastfeeding our 16 month old son and sleep is still disrupted. My past three cycles have all been 26-27 days long. For the past two cycles I’ve used Natural Cycles to track ovulation using bbt (with the natural cycles band). And each time it has confirmed ovulation around cycle day 19-22. I feel like I’m ovulating on day 14 due to an increase in sex drive and egg white mucus around then. But if the algorithm is correct then I am having a very short luteal phase which makes me worry about it limiting our chance of conceiving.

Advice and maybe a bit of support 🥺 Long Post Sorry

I’m 17 weeks + 1 pregnant I’m not sure if I have a right to be upset or it’s just my hormones.

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I’m adopted, I was taken away from birth mother at 12 months due to abuse and neglect, then at 4 years old I was removed from my birth father because of abuse and neglect. I was finally adopted at 7 years old by a very kind and loving family, in 2020 my birth father committed suicide. In 2021 i was told by 3 separate people he wasn’t my biological father and this other person was.

It’s extremely sad circumstances and what happened wasn’t ok I don’t blame my birth mum for the circumstances but I do feel a type of way because of what happened to me as a child and the lies and the controlling behaviour she shown towards me since being a adult sharing only the information she wants and with holding information and then using my two younger siblings as weapons it has been cruel but I don’t blame her around my conception. For 5 years I’ve been begging anyone and everyone for a DNA test. My uncle has finally agreed to one to see if he is actually my half sibling. My birth mother offered to pay for the DNA test in which I did offer to pay for because I didn’t want anyone controlling things. Sadly it’s happened she has put down she is the only person to receive the results. I’ve cried all night and not been asleep, I wanted the results I wanted to choose who knew and didn’t know it’s extremely sensitive information. I also don’t trust her and I fear if it’s the results she doesn’t want she will report false results or rewrite the results. So I have to put in writing to the company to send me a copy of the results which will take longer 4 weeks for me to receive them. It’s destroyed me I feel she could of asked me or even put my email address down for them to be sent to me also but it’s all about what she wants to do I feel it’s cruel and unfair and crosses my boundaries 🥺😢. I don’t know if I’m being pathetic or hormones are raging or I have a right to feel how I do 😮‍💨.

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