Struggling

I totally get that, i've just gone 20 with a 4 month old, my boyfriends just gone 22, and we both get that feeling from time to time but obviously wouldn't have it any other way. you feel awful having those feelings those, like almost wishing it was just the 2 of you still for a bit longer. I don't know what your family/friends are like but I'm sure if you have a good network around you, someone would look after your baby if you wanted a couple nights just the 2 of you? it's really hard leaving them with people as well but it helps so much if you need that time, cause you definitely will need it to keep your relationship strong!

Not sure how far along you are but I had felt the same when I was pregnant, we took trips and traveled. Now we have our 2 week old and i definitely miss the freedom of being able to do those things but I’m so glad I did when I could because now we have those memories, I’d definitely recommend it if it’s something you like to do, it’s gonna be a while before we are able to go and do things like that again and it definitely won’t be as easy.

I definitely get how you feel! Me and my partner dated a long time ago, never truly lost feelings then reconnected after a decade. We got pregnant about 5 months after officially getting back together and I've often had moments of almost mourning what we didn't get to have. Don't get me wrong I adore our daughter and wouldn't change her for the world, but I absolutely get the feeling of wanting more time just as a couple. We're trying to navigate it as best we can and just make sure we take the time and effort to nurture our relationship as much as we can, remembering we're people and a couple as well as parents. How you're feeling is absolutely valid! Just ride the waves of emotions and communicate with your husband, everything will work out 🫶🏻

it won't let me reply to your comment 😭 but it's no problem haha, and that's great! at least you have some family close to you. it's definitely hard whilst your pregnant cause you're just stuck with your thoughts and unfortunately all you can really do is try to stay positive (definitely not easy 😂), if you ever need a rant or anything, feel free to give me a message xx

If it makes you feel better I got pregnant the NEXT cycle after I got married 😂

My husband and I have been together since we were teenagers, but for all of 2025 and the last quarter of 2024, he was living overseas in South Korea with the army. Due to where he was stationed, we spent that entire time living separately. It was weird and hard. I was so excited for him to come back and we could start our lives together for real, no more army separations bc he was getting out and we were going to move and it was going to be great. I got pregnant the NIGHT he got back. I was 23 at the time, 24 now. I had a really challenging time adjusting to the idea of being a mother. I’m have a hard time adjusting lowkey. My baby is due in October and it’s just sort of been terrifying and exciting and I’m worried about losing myself in the process etc. so I get where you are coming from.