Labour and post birth visitors

I see a lot of people saying they don’t want anyone knowing when they are in labour and don’t want any visitors after. Just wondering what the general thoughts are on this? What are people’s reasons for wanting/not wanting this.

I’m a first time mum and thinking I want my friends and family around me straight away (if they want to) is there some sort of negative to this?

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We didn’t tell anyone because it was the early hours but also it happened too quick. My parents visited in hospital. I’m glad of that as oh wasn’t there all the time and it did get lonely and I didn’t like going to the toilet and leaving my baby unattended. My mil had cancer so visited us at home the day after with my sil.

Well giving birth is… insane. You are tired, exhausted, bleeding, overwhelmed, happy, … you shouldn’t stand or sit for long.it is a lot

Also the first days or weeks are extremely special and for us we’re very privat to meet our child.

You can meet people but keep your recovery in mind! Also don’t promises and see how it goes:)

Personally with my first I was more than happy for everyone to come visit right away. I can definitely understand not wanting that tho right after giving birth. With my second I planned on the same thing but there were complications and I think I had major ppd right after because I didn't want anyone there I just wanted to go home.

With my first I had visitors in the hospital and it was exhausting, I was so drained, struggling to breastfeed, still ill from pre eclampsia and recovering from a c section. I was so upset that I’d had visitors and I felt that even though I love my family I just felt sad that I’d missed out on the time with my baby and partner. With my 2nd we had no visitors for a few days once we were settled back home and I felt much happier about it. It just depends you you personally there’s no right or wrong x

When I had my baby friends and family did visit us at the hospital same day my baby was born, but if I have a baby I will wait until I’m home for visitors. I had a c-section and my baby was a premie so I was super sore and tired and people were coming in and out of the room until like 11pm 🫣 I did enjoyed having people being happy for me and my husband but didn’t like how long their visits were 😅 I obviously didn’t said anything as I didn’t wanted to sound rude.

Kinda in the middle. I only allowed 2 visitors, my mom and dad just for my babies safety and because I was recovering from a c-section. Respectfully though, just had a lot going on and really needed that time to gather myself immediately after birth. But it’s completely up to you and your comfortability. 🫶🏾

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The issue is my husband’s sisters have requested for him to give an update on everything, I’m not close to them.

During their labours (even until this day), they explicitly asked him to not share anything with me. To the extent of asking him to not tell me one of their babies was born until weeks later. I understood then and I understand now, neither was I offended by their choices.

Firstly, I want my labour/induction experience to be private and avoid people calling and texting for updates. I don’t think it’s necessary to know what I’m experiencing or receive live updates unless you are my parent, one of my birthing partners or particularly close. All my friends haven’t even asked for regular updates, just a “let me know you’re ok when you’re ready.”

Secondly, something about his sisters wanting updates is particularly triggering for me now.

Just needed to get this off my chest but some of their actions/requests around labour and postpartum are beginning to irritate me.