Down syndrome screening results

I feel so anxious. I found out on Friday that my result came back with a 1 in a 150 chance that my baby could have down syndrome.

I really don't know how to feel about it and I'm sooo anxious about it. I've had people tell me that it will still be a cute baby if it is and that it will still be loved but am I wrong to feel like this. I cried so much when I found out that I feel so bad about doing that. I'm 13 weeks and so much has already happened such as I've got gestational diabetes which I found out at 9 weeks now this. I'm really struggling with how to feel 😩.
My husband told me that if I don't want to go through with it that I can get rid of the baby but that isn't a choice I can't do that.

Just can't stop thinking about it all, struggling to sleep, relax or just be happy atm with all the unknown 😭

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I don’t think it’s wrong to feel like this at all. Having a baby is a lot. And knowing that this baby may have special needs and therefore require even more from you is also a lot. Your feelings are completely valid. Maybe try and take some time for yourself to try and clear your head / have a think about the situation what would be realistic for you and what wouldn’t. If getting rid isn’t an option for you, but neither would be a future with a child with down syndrome there are other options that you can look into. Try to breathe and take it one day at a time. Your gut will tell you what’s right for you. xx

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Hi, firstly, its ok to feel how you are feeling. You're human and anyone who says it doesnt worry them even slightly is likely telling porkies. Pregnancy is anxiety provolking at the best of times.
The unknown is scary but when you hold that baby in your arms it will all feel so different. If it worries you that much then maybe doing some research or speaking to mums with downs children may help.
The test is not as accurate as we think. A lot of people are told their child will have downs and then they dont. Try to focus on planning to meet your baby. You can also plan for the 'what ifs' if that helps. Whatever happens, you've got this and you'll be a great mum. ❤️

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I also had a result come back for downs syndrome. Mine was 1 in 81. I had the NIPT test and that came back at a low chance. I'm not saying don't worry because it's a time when you can't help but worry. But just take some comfort in knowing people out there have a lot higher result that turns out fine. I also have gestational diabetes so navigating that too. If you want a friendly ear you can always message me. I know how you're feeling and can definitely relate.

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I feel so anxious. I found out on Friday that my result came back with a 1 in a 150 chance that my baby could have down syndrome.

I really don't know how to feel about it and I'm sooo anxious about it. I've had people tell me that it will still be a cute baby if it is and that it will still be loved but am I wrong to feel like this. I cried so much when I found out that I feel so bad about doing that. I'm 13 weeks and so much has already happened such as I've got gestational diabetes which I found out at 9 weeks now this. I'm really struggling with how to feel 😩.
My husband told me that if I don't want to go through with it that I can get rid of the baby but that isn't a choice I can't do that.

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