Mom guilt

For the last few weeks, I’ve been sleeping with my baby because it’s been almost impossible to transfer her to her crib. The minute she touches the mattress, she wakes up. I know she wants to be close to me because the second I pick her up, she falls right back asleep.

It’s been awful. I honestly haven’t been sleeping much at all. I haven’t been super scared of co-sleeping because I’m a light sleeper and can hear every little sound she makes. I also try my best to make the space as safe as possible by keeping blankets and pillows away from her.

But recently she’s started moving around more, and I’ve been finding her in some scary situations. Thank God I’ve always woken up before anything happened because I can hear her.

The real scare happened last night. I was so exhausted that I fell asleep without realizing it, and when I woke up, my arm was against her face. I felt so awful. I’ve literally been crying since 6 this morning. Then later, I found her near a pillow again because she’s moving around so much now.

I don’t want my baby ending up in a dangerous situation, but this has been so hard. It’s not like I can just choose not to sleep. I’ve tried over and over to put her in her crib, but she wakes up every time. Some nights it’s just a constant cycle of getting her to sleep, transferring her to the crib, her waking up, getting her back to sleep, transferring her again, and repeating it all over. I’m completely exhausted.

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Noisy Sleepers 🫩

Any fellow FTMs struggling to sleep because their baby is SO noisy?

My little one grunts, squirms, squeaks, and makes all sorts of sounds all night long if he is in his next to me. It’s keeping me awake! I will just be settling down and he will make a loud grunt and I’m wide awake again, the only way I’m getting sleep is if he sleeps on my chest because then he doesn’t make a sound!

How do you manage to sleep through the newborn noises? Any tips or reassurance appreciated! 💕

Unwanted Cosleeping

Tell me if I’m justified in being mad about this.

I have always said I will never cosleep. My only reason is because I don’t like being touched while I sleep. I just don’t sleep well at all and wake up all night.

We have a 1 year old and a 2 year old that share a bedroom. I put my 1 year old down first and then my husband puts our 2 year old down. Well he started putting her down in our bed with him and he falls asleep and doesn’t transfer her. I don’t want to then transfer her in fear that she wakes up and then I have to stay up with her until she goes back to sleep.

She was also the best sleeper ever. I would put her down in her crib and say goodnight and she would go to sleep. My husband ruined it and would stand there and talk to her and rub her back so she no longer puts herself to sleep.

She also only sleeps on my side of the bed and she will pee. So now 3 times in the past month I have woken up in a puddle of pee.

Im furious. She shouldn’t be in our bed and he makes it very clear that he doesn’t care and if im unhappy about it then i should put her to bed. I know some will say thats the obvious answer but I literally do everything else when it comes to my kids. So I want him to help with bedtime. It’s not too much to ask.

Would you be upset?

Bedtime

Hi all,
My 6 month old goes down between 7/7:30pm and then wakes at around 5am for a feed and has a further 30/40 minute sleep before being up for the day but I’m just wondering what time is bedtime for your little ones? 7pm works well for us but a lot of people have said it’s too early etc for her age so wondering if I should push this to 8pm or even 9pm 🤔

Thank you 🩷

Sleepy

My baby sleeping at night from 10:30 pm to 7 am l am worried about this before he wakes every 2 hours now he is sleeping whole night tomorrow he will be 8 weeks is it something to worried or not l am waking him like every 4 or 6 hours whenever l open my eyes is it okay that l wake him or not is it okay that he sleeps like this

Where to start...

C section baby, currently on pp day 3 or 4 (it's the middle of the night currently!)
Since being home, baby girl has not been feeding too well. She latches, but only for a few seconds then either falls asleep or just screams and cries and comes off. My milk is not in yet (I don't think?! But boobs are v hard and painful no change to feeding though) so she's getting bits of colostrum here and there. We have been doing a lot of hand expressing and pumping then using the syringes to feed her, on midwives advice. This works like a charm in terms of getting food in her, but doesn't help her take the breast. First home visit from midwife today was helpful but she was a bit concerned about how few wet nappies baby is producing. She's had some urate crystals in her nappy too, because she's obvs dehydrated from not feeding enough. She is going to call us tomorrow then visit again on Monday and see where we're at. Baby can latch, and clearly has the right instincts for food so I think we'll get there but right now, the screaming and lack of feeding is a massive struggle. We are trying to take it in turns to get bits of sleep here and there but she won't go down on her own, will only sleep on one of us (usually my partner because I clearly smell of milk. Currently she's asleep onme though, which is unusual, my partner is sleeping and I'm desperately trying not to fall asleep with her in my arms. Difficult to get up and walk around because of c section recovery.
Anyway, a long ramble but if anyone has any thoughts, advice, anything I'd massively appreciate it. I feel like if I can just get a decent stretch of sleep in me and/or a decent feed in her, I'd be able to manage it all a lot better. Thanks in advance!

Sleep regression? Naps? help!

Anyone else’s nearly 14 month old just a bag of beans 24/7
This child just never sleeps 😂
So before we always used to get her down for bed about 7:30/8 but now she will not go sleep untill 10/10:30 no matter what we do but then she wakes up super early now as well usually between 6/7
We took her down to one nap a couple weeks ago as she was never sleepy for bedtime which seemed to worked for like a week but now it’s even worse
She usually has a 1 1/2 hour nap in the middle of the day, Just worrying she’s not getting enough sleep 😴
She has been walking for about a month and half now so not sure if it’s just regression from new skill as well😅