I need other opinions!!
Can people please tell me what their baby’s dads were like with their first born? I feel like men are just incapable of being a parent to a newborn well mine is anyway!! He’s 3 months old now, I send him the baby’s feeds every day he watches everything I do but still doesn’t know how to look after him on his own. “I don’t know when to feed him” “I don’t know when he wants his nappy changed” “I don’t know when he’s tired” how do I know then????
Why are the mums always the default parent? I haven’t had 1 day to myself I am constantly looking after the baby. He offers to do things but only when he can see I’m about to do it.
Today I’ve been so tired because the baby woke a few times last night not once has he offered to have him for me to just have a quick nap. I mention this to him, he then offers at 6pm, when I am due to pump? Who wants to nap at 6pm??
The list could go on and on and on and on but I haven’t got time to even say the half of it.
I just want to know does it get better or is it just a case of MEN
Rant over
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My first husband was a dream. He woke up with baby and was amazing from the start. The second was not able to help the baby until it was about 3 months. And the last two still don’t know what to do with a child.
Men just do not get it in my experience.
I feel you girl. I was in the same position with my partner. He never did anything, slept all the time, and was never around to support. I have no advice except for keep being the best mom you can be. You’ve got this, even though it’s extremely difficult right now.
My husband ran away to the uk for three months. With our first. He then ran away to Canada with our second. And now he wants nothing to do with our third. They are incapable of loving anything except themselves.
Weaponised incompetence. If they wanted to learn they would. My husband is a stay at home dad to my 3 year old and 12 week old and he is absolutely amazing x☺️
I think there’s certain factors that give woman a perceived advantage. Both parents are fully capable of meeting babies needs, but I think it’s easier for woman than men.
I believe women were naturally made to mother/nurture. Men, it doesn’t come to naturally. I do believe fathers have their place ofc.
Think about how life was for people back in the indigenous times. All the women would help one another with the children while the men went out and hunted for food and protected the tribe. Idk that’s just me
My husband is 22 years older than me and had other kids in the past so he did great with our first baby. He loved her like crazy.
I got lucky, I'm not gonna lie..my daughter falls asleep in her dad's arms so easily...but at the same time I just complained to him about when was the last time he actually went to her doctors appointments even I schedule them on his days off so that he can go. It's things like that, he didn't even know what formula we had switched her to or how much it was...it's hard because even with areas that he lacks in he'll still get up in the middle of the night for feeds even though he has to be up at 5am for work..
He genuinely doesn’t know. My husband knows how to take care of the baby now when she is 1. We had the same fight so we agreed since he is useless with baby he will run the household 😂 I think it just takes them longer to recognize patterns with babies than us. If you are pumping you can skip a feed and he could do that.
My partner did everything for the 2 first weeks when my baby was born and I was recovering from my c section. Now that baby is 5 months old he does bedtime maybe 2x a week and the odd nappy change in the evenings but he works and I’m still in maternity leave, so we will do differently when I’m back to work
I responded back to the “how do I” “I don’t knows” with “how do you think I learned?”&” I’m just going through the list of fixes, idk what he actually needs either”
I don’t ask anymore, I tell. If we always take over and do, they think, why bother, she’ll handle it.
A lot of men will just walk on you, even more if there’s no reason not to.
Weaponised incompetence
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