Am I overreacting???
My LO's 2nd birthday was yesterday. We kept it small with immediate family and a few friends. A couple of people didn't show, but overall it was a great turnout, and my daughter had the best time.
After the party, my MIL called to tell us how wonderful everything was—the location, the party, how much LO enjoyed herself—and that we should be proud. It was so thoughtful.
Then my mom's only comment was: “That's why we eventually stopped doing birthday parties for you guys. No one shows up, and it's expensive."
No "she looked so happy" or "that was fun". Just negativity.
I'm honestly hurt. Why focus on who *didn't* come, instead of celebrating a happy little 2-year-old who was surrounded by people who love her? My daughter won't remember how many people were there, but I'll always want to celebrate her.
So yeah, all of that to ask if I’m overreacting for being upset with my mom and not speaking to her atm.
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I guess it would depend on her personality. Like maybe she thought you might be upset about it and was trying to empathise? It sounds like your MIL is a really positive person and that's great, that doesn't mean everyone has to be the same or even really care about kids birthday parties. Unless there are other issues I'd personally say it's a bit OTT to not speak to your mum over this isolated incident. Do you have a good enough relationship that you can just talk about it? I know my mum is super defensive when I bring up things she's done to hurt me but I've told her I'm always going to be honest or we don't have a real relationship and actually she's gotten a lot better at acknowledging things and taking them on board.
My thoughts are they only turn two once. They only turn any of the ages once. Make it memorable. But who the flip cares who is there or not so long as they are happy.
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