am i selfish?

That's why my kids are almost 13, 6 1/2 and I'm pregnant again. Toddler years are difficult, and I definitely needed a break between each one...but having more than one child really is beneficial for the children, and society as a whole. Tbf, some of the absolute worst people I've ever come into contact with are their parents one and only. I think it messes people up and makes them very self centered/narcissistic.

I think about it everyday how i wouldnt be able to handle another pregnancy n birth n baby! Also while thinking about the women who have multiples! I think they are superheros lol im one and done for sure. Its so hard bein a mom! Overstimulating anxiety loss of identity etc.

That's unfortunate.

Hey, everyone’s experience is different and it’s not realistic to compare yourself to others. Personally I always loved being an Aunt, but never saw myself having children. Although I have my daughter, I will never have other children by choice.

A lot of women are too quick to pass judgement, but the reality is that we don’t all have the same support system family wise and at home, and not everyone has the drive to be a mother, and that’s okay.

No, you know yourself best and to be fair the first years are the hardest. I don't enjoy the baby phase or 2-3, as much as I have now that my kids are older. I'm dreading having to start all over again, in a couple weeks. It takes a great deal physically and mentally to be a sahm. And from what some have told me they are not cut out for it and that's okay.

Give yourself some grace you have time to change your mind as your life can change in the future.

i don’t want second child either. i had little brother. and it’s traumatise me. we had 7,5 years gap and i was constantly babysitting him. mom was always tired and not in the mood. no time for me at all. all good memories with parents was before brother. so i don’t have a village, i am not ok with childcare in young age and don’t have money for nanny(and have problems with trust). so for me it’s good decision don’t have more children. and o make peace with it. it doesn’t matter that i don’t think about second sometimes. but o always decide no more. i found an psychology articles about one child, two, three and more. there always proms and cons. and in every family it’s different, of course

Being a stay at home mama is the hardest job I've ever had, and the jump from 1 to 2 is not an easy one either. Both of my kiddos, pregnancies, postpartum expiereces were completely different in all the ways! It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks about you abd your life choices ... do you and don't feel bad about it at all!! You owe no one an explanation. Us mamas need to stick together, lift each other up, and love on each other not tear each other down and judge one another! I am Always here if you need to vent, or a shoulder to cry on! You got this!! 😘🙏💜