Feeling alone

Does anyone else feel like your doing it all by yourself? Ive been with my husband 7 years and we have 3 kids. A 6 year old,3 year old and a 4 month old. I feel like im doing it all on my own. Ive been dealing with postpartum depression, anxiety and rage really bad. I try to tell my husband how im feeling because he says I can always come to him but when I do I always end up feeling worse not better. Like tonight,I just wanted some time to myself without having to be a mom,my 2 daughters wanted me but with my postpartum I have moments where I feel disconnected from them and don't want to be around them,just want to be left alone and have space. I tell my husband that and suddenly he makes me feel like im a bad mom. Says I can't blame that on postpartum, there's just something wrong me and its not postpartum. I just don't want to spend time with our girls. I try to explain to him he doesn't know what its like dealing with this,that he doesn't understand that this isn't me being a bad mom and making an excuse not to be around the girls. Mentally I can't be because of this. Why can he get sometime and peace by himself but I can't? I could hear him in our bedroom getting frustrated because our 3 year old won't lay down and go to sleep and I can't help but think "now you see what i deal with all the time. Another thing that upsets me when I try to tell him how im feeling,he goes "you don't know what its like working 8-10hrs a day" excuse me? That's 8-10 hrs you don't have to worry about being a parent. I work longer than that by being stay at home mom. I get tired,overwhelmed, overstimulated,angry and want to cry because the kids aren't listening or im dealing with our baby. He doesn't get that I can't give my attention to all 3 of them at the same time. He doesn't understand that it can get to me and become a lot. He tries to say it isn't that hard,but he's not here during the day to see what its like.

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Do you think spanking (bare handed) your child is appropriate discipline for this incident?

I do NOT want to start a online argument. But today l had the cops called on me after disciplining my 4 year old on a public beach. And l would like your opinions. Heres what happened

We played,swam... for about 4 hours prior to this. She would not leave someone else's beach toys alone after telling her multiple times no that's not ours do not touch it. If you touch it you will go into timeout. Do not touch it that's not ours. And she touched the toys. So l picked her up and started carrying her back to the our table. I held her under her arms back against me. (She was throwing her arms and legs the whole time) Maybe 50ft. There l placed her on our outdoor rug and told her she needed to stay. She got up and started back to the beach. I then picked her back up and sat her back down. She got up again and started l then did the 1 2 3's with her and told her that she needed to come back and sit on the rug. (The rug is 10ft by 10ft.) She then went over the stream/puddle and started running to the beach. I then pick her up and brought her back and then put her on the rug more stern like NO SIT DOWN. She then decided to take sticks and start forcefully poking me with them. I told her no that is not nice please stop. She kept doing it. I would take the stick she was poking me with and she would grab another. After the 3d time I told her if she kept poking me she was going to get a spanking. And she poked me again. So I stood up (I was sitting at the table she was on the rub on the ground) and gave her three spankings. My hand went about a foot and then back down. She cried for a second and then sat on the rug quietly and had her timeout.

Long story short some family was upset about it and decided to come over and tell us how we were abusing our kid and then they called the cops on me. The cops did a investigation. Watched the video the family took of me and the facility cameras and talked with several surrounding people and came to the conclusion that l was in my right of disapline standards and gave me a disordery conduct warning. Anyway do you think l disciplined my child apparently? Or do you think l abused her?

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This isn’t even the full video, but it’s part of an argument that started over my boyfriend spending the night and ended up getting completely out of hand. The guy in the orange shirt (my mom’s boyfriend) said a racial slur. Mind you, our son was in the room during all of this. My mom kept telling me to take him into another room, but if I had done that, I wouldn’t have any evidence of what was being said and how the situation actually went down.

Should I do it or wait?

Tomorrow morning I’m scheduled to have 4 teeth taken out 2 molars and 2 wisdom teeth. My dentist isn’t putting me to sleep but will just numb the area. They said I should be able to drive myself home. My only problem is, I have no family here all my family lives 8+ hours away and I go back to work 2 days later. Should I wait till the end of the year when I move back home next to family to get them removed? I’m not in pain or anything at the moment but they do need to be removed it’s been long over due. I’m terrified of the aftercare being alone with 2 kids & having to work. I do wfh & one of my kids is a teenager but still it’s scary to think about recovering without any help.

This probably sounds pathetic of me, but here goes…

We have been super lucky that my husband got just over 4 weeks off work with us. But he goes back to work tomorrow, and is working a late; 11am-10pm. And I am terrified.
he has been the absolute rock in the evenings when im getting tired and baby is getting fussy.
How has everyone managed that first day? or even first week?
i did meal prep a load of pasta salad today so I know ive got 1 meal I can grab each day without any prep time

If one separated parent wants an important document, and the other parent doesn't feel it's safe to put in the child's school bag, who do you think should make the effort to provide the document?

There's not really any middle ground between the two

am i selfish?

i had my son in 2025. he’s a little over a year now. ever since having him, i genuinely have no clue how people have more than one kid. i feel terrible because he seems to be lonely and i wish for a sibling for him but i don’t think i can ever be pregnant again. the vomiting , the weight gain, the pain, labor, the hair loss, postpartum depression. all of it. i only just recently started feeling like myself again (barely) and i look at moms of 4 or 5 kids like they’re insane. i haven’t been able to work since i got pregnant and childcare isn’t affordable so i entirely rely on my man for money which is fine, he’s great, but i wish i had my own career. being a sahm has driven me insane. it was only after making a ton of friends and having my mom babysit him lots that i started to get my spark back. lately i just look at him and get so sad that he plays alone, or only with me. how do yall have multiple kids? i genuinely don’t think i could ever sacrifice my body and mental health again. motherhood isn’t the beautiful thing everyone told me it would be, im sorry. i love my boy to death but motherhood has drained the life out of me.