Meeting friends with baby for lunch etc

My baby tends to require constant attention. She’s now 3.5 months and I’ve been apprehensive regarding going out to meet friends etc as I fear I’ll constantly need to soothe her etc, she might be fussy the whole time.

How do people distract their babies enough so they can have a proper adult outing etc?

in our community

Has anyone ever faked a pass ouy or death?

I usually do different emergency things that could happen with my kids and yesterday I only had my 2yo son and 3yo daughter i pretend to have fainted (im 36 weeks pregnant) My daughter was on her device so she really didn't pay me any mind but my 2yo kept calling me and opening my eye lid thats when my 3yo came over looked at me and said "mom can you put this code in?" Lmao 🤣 do I need something more realistic or something for her?

formula - why did you use formula instead of breastfeeding?

looking to hear from mothers who DIDN'T breastfeed, please.

I should start by clarifying I have 0 judgment for either answer and am actually looking for some reassurance myself lol. I'm having a baby soon and honestly the more I learn about breastfeeding the more I don't want to do it. it just looks so constant and so exhausting and your partner can't help take the load at all unless you add pumping which is a whole other set of difficulties. I'm kind of tired of my body not belonging to me, I've had a hard enough pregnancy, and I'm just so scared of feeling chained to my baby as a food source instead of wanting to be with them and being able to bond. I also feel immensely guilty that I'm starting to feel this way, and like I almost need to go through the suffering of trying to breastfeed and physically not being able to in order to 'earn' the freedom of using formula.

Are there mothers out there who chose to formula feed not because they couldn't breastfeed but just because they didn't want to breastfeed? I feel like not wanting to isn't a good enough reason because 'breast is best' and I know all that but I just don't feel like I can face having to do it so often and at all hours without help. every mitigating idea I've had like formula as a base but with 2-3 breastfeeds a day everyone just says "oh that won't work it'll tank your supply and your baby won't get any breast milk at all." ok, I don't want to do it then! but I feel like an awful mother already...

really not looking for mothers judging each other in the comments please! I would really like to hear people's stories (and be set straight myself if I am being selfish) so please let them share.

How long are your 6 week olds sleeping for at night?

2-3 hours?
3-4 hours?
4-6 hours?

Nursery settling in days/ Naps

What are we doing about settling days that clash with baby’s nap ? I have 3 settling in days in August, first one is 1h , and the other two are 2h, they all start at a time where baby would go down for a nap which is between 9-10am but they can still change by the time they come so not sure what to do? Any advice please? TIA!

feel like i’m about to go insane

Wondering if anyone else can relate. My 6 month old won’t play with anything, she has so many toys and she’ll hold and try eat it for maybe 30 seconds then get so stressed and start screaming at top of her lungs. She refuses tummy time as soon as i put her on her belly. I can’t even
get through a little kiddy book with her without her kicking off. She doesn’t like being put in anything that’s not my arms. She’ll only nap if it’s a contact nap. My only break is a walk and she’s starting getting fussy during them now. She used to like the car now she screams so loud she makes herself choke and stop breathing. I literally have no time to myself and I have no idea what to do in her wake windows when she hates literally anything and everything.

Need advice asap

Ok so over the weekend my twins turned 2. My Mother in law was there and for some reason ever since my daughter was born she’s so loud and obnoxious when she talks to her, so with that being said my daughter has never liked her or wanted her to hold her. I have heard my MIL say she has a pug nose before (which she does not) and I told my husband and he never had told his mom to stop. So this time when she was leaving she had the nerve to say by ug pug Referring to her as an ugly pug! I’m pissed and I told my Husband and I know he’s not going to check her. I don’t know what to do any advice?