Partner unfaithful online

My partner has been sending explicit images of himself on a couples site. He did this without my knowledge and even put my initial and a fake age for me and had it set to a couples account without my knowledge or consent. He hasn’t used my photos he claims. But he says he thinks people thought they were talking to the lady of the account.

We have two children under 3. I have had HG and PPD both times, and only just getting better now mentally/emotionally. I’ve been under perinatal mental health. He’s been closed off and says he’s found it hard to talk to me truthfully about his feelings.

He said the way I’ve been acting towards him since our 2nd baby was born made him lonely and he wanted to escape who he’s become recently. I’ve felt very alone too, but have always put my kids and him above myself.

I’ve given him plenty of opportunities to talk with me and even at times almost begged him to speak to me and tell me what’s going on in his head. I’ve also been very upfront about what I need from him - more emotional vulnerability and honesty.

What would you do?

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Lustful husband

Advice welcomed please. I am approaching 9 years with my husband. We have two children together, who are both under 3 years old. I’ve dealt with him emotionally cheating twice, pre marriage and pre babies, and like a dummy I had forgiven him. When I would find out, he would tell me how terrible he felt and how he regretted everything and would work hard to gain my trust again. BTW I’ve constantly explained to him throughout our whole relationship that his lustful actions of watching corn and looking up instagram baddies felt disrespectful to me. After we got married and had kids, he convinced me that none of that was going to happen anymore and I believed him because he started to turn more to God and his phone was generally clean when I would check. Sometimes I seen he would slip up and look up big 🍑 latinas, but forgave him since he would show remorse. 2 days ago, I seen he searched “so cal swingers” on Reddit website where it showed many inappropriate pics and couples looking for another male in their relationship. Mind you, I’m not into that. His excuses for his past actions was that he was “young and dumb”, his excuse now is that it’s my fault because I don’t put up enough. We do it once a week, of course more would be great but our 2 kids are so clingy. We agreed we would just coparent now that the damages in our relationship seem irreversible. Are there any men out there that are not lustful at all?? Hearing other women’s experiences, all men are the same. If all men are the same I would just rather stick with the one I got or just be single. I’m afraid to contact family or friends about this because knowing the dummy I am, I would want to repair for the sake of my own family. As a stay at home mom, I don’t have any of my own income to get my own place. Not sure what to do.

Husband is p*ssing me off!!!

It started off with him telling me I was acting "silly", code for stupid/ridiculous, when I said baby dropped, which means I will be going into labor sooner than we thought. All I can think, is you being for real right now?! You have a baby and I'll tell you there's no need to fill nervous.

Then he starts coming up with all these different scenarios that could happen, and I need to come up with solutions for our other children. I was fine at this point of going into labor sooner, but nooo! Ffs dude just chill the hell out and stop overthinking everything. The kids will be fine with our family member. Like come on, I have to get him to stress less so I can be at peace... again!

It's just so annoying the over-preparedness, because it's like that for every aspect of our life. Well guess what it takes the enjoyment out of life sometimes because, I have to prepare for cases that are the worst

AITAH For telling my mom to block my mother in law off her fb

Okay so I’m 32 and my mom is 52 my mother in law is 69.

My mom is on fb posting dancing videos shaking her butt etc. I’m not going to tell her what she can or can’t post on her social media. But her in my mother in law aren’t friends, they’ve only met once. I find it embarrassing or awkward the stuff she decides to post.

Crazy in laws

Does anyone here even like reading family drama? 😂 Because I have enough stories from the last 3 years to write a whole Netflix series.

Ever since I got married, my life has felt like a Bollywood movie thanks to my husband’s family. We’re from different ethnic backgrounds (he’s Arab, I’m Uzbek), but we share the same religion.

My husband is genuinely a good man—he helps at home, provides for us, spoils me whenever he can, and always stands up for me. His biggest flaw is that he tries to keep everyone happy, and that usually ends with us arguing instead.

Just to give you an idea… during my first week of marriage, my mother-in-law compared my looks to my husband’s ex. His brothers told me I reminded them of girls he used to date. When I got pregnant with a girl, my mother-in-law was disappointed because she wanted a grandson. Then when I gave birth, she complained that I didn’t let her be in the delivery room.

And trust me… that’s not even close to the wildest story. 😂

Potty training

Has anyone started potty training this early on? Baby girl is 8 months next week and over the last month she has become aware when pooping (she will either look me in the eyes while doing it or really push one out😂) if i ask her if she pooped she will laugh or smile at me so was thinking whether it might be worth getting a potty and put it on her after meals ect.

For reference she is not on the move- just sitting.

1st Birthday presents !

It’s my daughter’s first birthday next month and I’m unsure on what toys to get her to help with her development. I was also thinking of getting her a trike. Are these worth it, if so which brand is best ? X