I have a 2.8 year old and a 3 week old and wow, I never realised I was going to find it this hard. I did nothing but cry for the first 2 weeks because I felt guilty on my first and missed our little routine together. He’s been absolutely amazing with his little brother. But it’s me finding it hard, struggling to adapt, I forgot how intense the newborn phase is and I obviously love him lots, but please tell me it gets better? And please share your experience with this age gap
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Sorry this is meant to say 2 under 3

It’s definitely gets easier!!! We had our second when our first just turned 2 (2 weeks after her birthday🥺). Firstly, your hormones won’t be helping! And it’s so hard to start with when the newborn is cluster feeding and not sleeping great.
But you’ll blink and your baby will be 6 months old and smiling and giggling at their older sibling!
You’ll get into a routine of what works best for you all and the good days will outweigh the bad. Hang in there, it definitely gets easier❤️❤️

I totally relate to this. My baby is 11 weeks and big brother is 3. I felt so much guilt for the first few weeks because my son was finding it really hard to adjust and he'd cry for me whenever I had baby sister.
Thankfully now we have a much better routine, he has gotten so much better with baby sister, and we try to include him in as much as possible with caring for her so he feels important and helpful which makes him happy.
I missed our old routine so much when it was just me and my son, we had such a lovely routine and would spend every hour of the day together, so it was a massive shift, and although things are settling into our new way, I do still kinda miss it sometimes. Having a newborn and a toddler is not for the weak 😅