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Feeling really disheartened

I'm 38+3 and just had my last midwife appointment (planned C-section next week), but it wasn't my usual midwife it was her holiday cover, and I just felt like she was really unapproachable and not particularly friendly. I had loads of questions I wanted to ask but just didn't feel comfortable asking her and she barely asked me any questions so it didn't really open up any communication channel.

She was quite rough when feeling for baby and has been the only midwife to hurt me during this process, and she didn't even tell me how engaged baby was or anything. Does anyone know how long it takes for Badger to update as hoping to see on there?

The student midwife also said my urine was showing traces of nitrates and asked if she should send it off, and because the lady before also had nitrates she decided it was the sticks and no need to send it off. I had a Google after and see it's linked to UTI's, but she didn't even ask me any follow up questions like if it was uncomfortable peeing (which it is, but I assumed was linked to baby position).

I've honestly just left that appointment so sad and disappointed. One of the things I wanted to discuss was possible prenatal depression but I just couldn't bring myself to talk about it with her, and I won't see my normal midwife until after I've had the baby and that will likely be at my house with my husband and baby there, so it probably won't be something I can just bring up then either.

Sorry for the essay, just needed to get my feelings out