Annoying husband or ungrateful wifeš¤·āāļø
For context, we decided to wait until our LO is about 2 before enrolling him in a nursery, thatāll be 2027 so I stay home with him. Itās not been easy but I think I manage fine. But somedays Iām tired and need me-time.
When my husband gets home from work, he goes out with the LO for a walk so I get to have a few minutes to get myself sorted out so I have a quick shower, eat and have a lie down. But once heās back everything is back to mummy.
Most days I donāt mind but right now Iām on my period and Iām fatigued.
So husband needed me to help with something and I say oh can I help you now because Iām tired and want to go to bed early. He stays dragging his feet so I repeat āIām tired, my eyes are heavy already, letās get it done now so I can sleepā (mind you, time is about 10pm so itās not even early) then he laughs and says āWhatās making you tired? Youāre home all day, I had a long day at the office, I still went on a walk with LO so you could rest so Iām the one supposed to be tired not youā. I told him off though and I do not feel bad one bit.
And this isnāt the 1st, 2nd or 3rd time heās made statements like this and it pisses me off soo much because he canāt handle our LO home alone for 10 minutes without turning on the TV. I spend all day with him active playing, little to no screen time, heās still nursing so boob on demand, I still have to sort laundry, make sure we have dinner all this while on my period with the worst back pain and yet Iām home all day apparently doing nothing.
He has since apologised and I apologised too for going off and I still help with what he needed help with and eventually went to bed at about 11pm.
So would you say Iām ungrateful or heās annoying? I know my answer š
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I'd say neither, it's hard having a little one and you can both feel tired x
My husband does this and it drives me mad so Iād say although youāre both able to be tired, he is annoying š
Honestly, now im back at work, all I want to do when I get in from work is just sit on the floor with my LO so we get some quality time without me expending any energy as im exhausted.
So I absolutely see his side too. You need to talk and agree that neither of you should try the whole who is more tired game as you both are tired and both your inputs are valuable
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