Calling secondary school teachers

My boy was born prematurely and therefore was born in August instead of October.

We have to apply for schools this year (a year earlier than we thought due to him being premature) and thus need to consider whether or not to apply for a deferred entry (so he starts reception the following year).

This will ultimately means he is technically a year behind in school but actually only 3 days older than a child born on the 1st of September.

His development is great, very normal for his age but I am considering the deferred entry due to him being so young in the year.

My fear of doing this is that he'll get bullied in secondary school for being 'kept behind a year' 'he's so dumb' that kind of thing.

Just curious to see whether any secondary school teachers on here have experience with this?

I'd never forgive myself if we did keep him back and then got bullied for it!!!

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Hi, if I'm correct, he will go straight into year one if you defer him for the whole year. They will just miss out reception completely so I do think it's best to send him in or you can delay him starting a term or two into reception.

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He wouldn’t be behind by secondary school, he would just skip reception.
I personally wouldn’t defer as the jump from nursery/preschool to year one would be quite a big one - reception is a good step in the middle.
My son is May born so on the younger end of the school year and is finishing reception now, there is a little girl in his class who is August born and she is thriving.

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You can have them start the year afterwards (as long as the school accept it) so he would still go into reception

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My question is has any teachers in secondary school experienced this?😊

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Secondary school science teacher here, and head of department. Over 12 years of teaching, I can genuinely say I haven’t noticed a clear difference between when a child is born and their achievement.

I’ve taught September-born students who have struggled or underperformed, and August-born students who have thrived and exceeded targets.

What seems to make a greater difference is:

• Literacy – the more a child reads, the better they can access resources like textbooks and revision guides, alongside developing a wider vocabulary.

• Parental support and attitudes towards learning – children pick up on how parents view school and individual subjects. If a parent dismisses maths, geography, art or science as unimportant, children may be less likely to give their best in those areas.

• Starting revision earlier – even 10 minutes a week from Y7 on simple recall activities can make a huge difference compared with playing catch-up in Y11. Catching up is doable, but far more stressful.

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