A Genuine Question About Friendship

I keep seeing so many people say they want friends, but I’m genuinely wondering… do y’all really?

Because from what I’ve seen, a lot of people don’t put in any effort. Someone messages you, and you don’t respond. You expect people to double-text you. Conversations ends because nobody wants to carry them.

Friendships take effort from both people. If you truly want genuine friends, you have to be willing to communicate, show up, and meet people halfway. You can’t expect meaningful friendships without putting in any effort yourself

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I completely agree. I’ve genuinely tried making friends, gone to meetups, reached out, and put myself out there. For some reason, the connection either slowly drifts away or ends up feeling completely one-sided. After a while, it starts to feel like you’re reaching out to thin air.
Friendships absolutely take effort from both people. I don’t expect anyone to carry every conversation, but I also don’t think one person should always be the one checking in, making plans, or keeping the friendship alive. The best friendships happen when both people actually want to be there and make the effort.

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Alright these past two weeks have been so hard on me and not having any friends to meet up with and get my mind off of things has been eye opening… my baby daddy broke up with me and we are still living in the same house and he gets to go out on the weekends while I’m stuck I need some girl friends to kick it with for real…

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