Small bump insecurity
Hi everyone! I’m feeling a lot of weird insecurity regarding my bump size. I’m 38 weeks pregnant with my first baby, and my bump does not look it. I’ve always been very tall and very skinny. Logically, I know that my bump is presenting as much smaller because of my long torso, so she has lots of room without having to project outwards. But lately I’ve been struggling navigating conversations with women regarding my pregnancy because they assume that I don’t have the same issues they’ve had through their own pregnancies, or they downplay and dismiss my struggles outright. I still have just as much baby inside of me, I still struggle to do all the same things, heck I have a lot of extra pregnancy issues from an unrelated autoimmune disease.
I almost chose to post as incognito because when I’ve spoken to others about this in person, a lot of women have had a “steak too juicy, lobster too buttery” response. But I’m choosing to be vulnerable regardless of how others may perceive me.
My biggest question for y’all is, how did you personally overcome your various insecurities during pregnancy and/or postpartum? What worked for you, what didn’t?
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I think what helped me was getting pregnant with my second! I had the opposite comments with my first pregnancy! But my second pregnancy was the exact opposite of my first. I was much smaller and had different issues entirely! By the time I was in my third trimester I didn’t care or even really listen to anything anyone said about my pregnancy or body! I also gave really minimal information to people unless it was once of my close trusted friends who wouldn’t make weird comments lol! I know this advice probably doesn’t help but no one knows what’s going on in your body and how you feel, who cares what they perceive? Those who know you should listen, believe, and understand you by your word alone, you don’t need to “show the part.” So I guess my advice would be to say “screw this” and just ignore everyone 🤣❤️
It’s also normal to be smaller with your first!
People will ALWAYS have something to say. I started showing pretty early, I had a little bump at 8 weeks, currently 32 and some people say I look huge, others small. At the end of the day, you know what you have and what you’re dealing with. Pregnant or not, people still haven’t learned not to talk about other people’s bodies!! Fuck anyone who makes you feel less than what you deserve. I know it’s easier said than done but your focus should be you and your baby.
I had a cryptic pregnancy with my first (I didn’t know I was pregnant until I was in labour) and barely showed at all with my second and I really struggled particularly at work. I didn’t necessarily look as uncomfortable as I felt so that made asking for adjustments really daunting. Just know you’re not alone and your struggles aren’t any less because you’re not ‘big enough’. I had a lot of rude comments regarding weather I was eating enough or starving the baby, but I just had a long torso and a backwards-tilting uterus! People always have something to say when you’re pregnant though
With my first i didn’t actually show until 8.5 months so i understand! I’m 5’5
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