Can't look myself in the mirror

Hi everyone ❤️

I know we’re all new mums here and our bodies are healing, but I’m really struggling with looking at myself in the mirror. I just don’t recognise my body anymore.

This is my second pregnancy, and I don’t remember finding it this hard the first time. I think the fact it’s summer doesn’t help... it’s hot, I’m leaking milk all the time, none of my clothes fit, and I’m still about 10 kg heavier than I was before pregnancy. Everything just feels really overwhelming!!

I know it probably sounds superficial, especially when I have a healthy baby and so much to be grateful for, but I can’t help feeling this way. I’m hoping I’m not the only one who’s felt like this ❤️

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You are absolutely not the only one feeling like this and the way you feel is completely valid! Not superficial at all! However, try and be kind to yourself. Your body has been through a huge change and it needs time to heal. I had my 3rd section 3 weeks ago and I feel the same, the apron belly is saggier, boob's leaking constantly, gas pain is horrendous! I sometimes wonder why my partner is still around 😂 we have been through such a huge change, try and embrace your new body and give it a chance to heal. Youve done an amazing thing 💜

Defo not the only one!! With baby number 1 I don’t recall holding onto much weight, my body bounced back. With baby number 2 I remember getting to week 6 and feeling awful about my belly- I had such an easy second baby it made it easy to focus on myself and with a wedding looming I got my act together and focused and weeks turned to months and my body healed and I was back where I wanted to be. I had baby number 3 four weeks ago- he’s not so easy 🙈 and I’m not putting the pressure on myself to bounce back- I’m sure with every baby it gets harder as it also gets harder with age (I’m very much a geriatric mum!) Time seems to go so very quickly and baby won’t stay little long so please be kind to yourself xx

You are not alone ! I am actually gross 🤢😭

Feeling the same, so grateful, but sad too ❤️

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