Am I a bad parent?

I have a six year old boy who is similar but I personally would still take my child. Guessing it’s a kids party? Maybe some interactions with kids her age will be a good thing. Maybe the party might even tire her out so you can get some peace. If she does tend to misbehave I would just leave the party early if needed.

As for the bf problem, if he can’t be on the same page as you then he shouldn’t even get a say in parenting her. She needs to see the adults are on the same page and she can’t just run behind the other parent who lets her do what she wants. That’s just creating more problems.

Sounds like a jealousy to her younger brother and boredom combo!

You’re not a bad parent. Personally I would pick a different kind of consequence because it feels unfair to the family and the nephew to have his cousin not there and she is still young. I agree at 5 there should be consequences though maybe no screens for a bit or no dessert. I know generally the advice is to give a consequence that’s a direct result of the action but that’s not always realistic. I’m sorry she’s testing boundaries. It’s developmentally appropriate but also annoying as fuck.

I agree with Elizabeth. I think she should be able to go to the party but have at home consequences. I follow Bratbusters parenting (name is not what it seems, she does not call kids brats). She has helped me turn my parenting around!! We still have our days but I now have effective ways to discipline but also Im learning how to connect with my kids. Honestly my parents never played or barely talked to us so I struggle with the connection piece the most....which when kids aren't getting the connection they need, they tend to act out more. She has a free behavior board and mini-course on her website bratbustersparenting.com. I linked one of her many podcasts on hitting. I hope you can figure it out. Solidarity though girl because parenting is hard...parenting without a supportive partner is double hard.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/08iAeEaG7urOxPOlQPHPtZ?si=uEJYQ_xkRhi03-y4itmUVg&utm_source=copy-link

I also think the consequences should be related to the bad behaviour so going to the party shouldn't be taken away. It actually could help her behaviour since she seems bored. Imo

I think she’s acting out because she’s jealous. It doesn’t make you a bad parent. But I’d think about ways to give her positive reinforcement when she does something right. If the only thing you ever hear from mom is “stop it” or “don’t do that”, it can be very discouraging.

We give her a sticker she puts on the calendar for each day she doesn’t have a time out. With X amount of stickers she gets something. She can use them for something small or save them up for a big prize at the end of the month. And sometimes when we’re out and she wants a new toy or something, we tell her “ok if you want to use your stickers for this toy”. It makes her more mindful about whether she likes something enough to spend stickers. The most important part is to do the sticker every morning for the day before. I think it helps boost her morale and the good behavior kind of snowballs.