Asking to respect "no kissing boundary" without causing an argument

Ok so with my first baby I had a strict "no face kissing" rule this was for everyone including me and my partner.
My inlaws (mil/fil/sil/bil)basically all got really annoyed about this and caused a massive rift between us (daughter is now 4 and still we are not close because of it)
Im now worring already about baby 2 and again having to set this boundary with them.
My partner is absolutely rubbish at speaking up to his family so please dont suggest he has to do it!
I just need advice how to word it really!!!!

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MIL has fell out with me

My MIL has fell out with me because I expressed concern about her giving my recently turned 5 month old ice cold filtered water out of a glass (no sterilisation) - behind my back despite me politely telling her beforehand that he’d never had water before and I’d prefer for her not to give it to him yet. (For context I walked in on her doing it btw so I saw it first hand and was absolutely shocked). She yelled in my face, completely snapped at me, told me she’ll never do anything for me again, was sarcastic about her changing his nappy and said she hopes I don’t have a problem with that either. I remained calm during the whole exchange despite her giving me evil stares and rolling her eyes multiple times and just being rude. She stormed off and has refused to speak to me since. I sent her a message the morning after to check if she’s ok and that I’d love to restore our relationship but she’s ignored it (not like her as she usually responds immediately). My husband is abroad atm so he’s not around to mediate. I’m really keen to repair this and get back to normal but I’m not sure what else to do at this point.

Anyone have any advice or tips?

Am I broken or is this just life now?

I need some advice or somewhere to vent that isn’t my head or feeling like I’m annoying the crap out of friends. My little boy is 8 weeks old and before a few days ago I’ve felt generally okay. Obviously teary and stressed in places but nothing that I cant handle. The past couple days however have been horrid. I’m trying to tell myself he’s just fussy because of the hot weather (who isn’t son?) but I’m just really struggling with life right now. He’s not even THAT fussy, he still sleeps relatively good throughout the night but when he cries throughout the day I want to just leave and never come back. I know I wouldn’t but the thought is there.
I feel like recently I’m getting way more overwhelmed at the smallest of things. I often feel like I’ve made the biggest mistake of my life and he deserves so much better than what I’m giving him. I also feel so much guilt for feeling this way because I know I have it technically so much easier than others, we have a brilliant support network, friends with babies his age and my partner is off for another 5 weeks. I just can’t shake the feeling that I wasn’t built for motherhood and the thought of having to feel this way for the rest of our lives makes me terrified I’m going to pass on childhood trauma to my little one.

At what age is baby ready for sit down restaurants?

My birthday was in the middle of my pregnancy so I couldn't do my typical birthday dinner at my favorite sit down restaurant and we planned to do it after I had baby. He's 7 weeks tomorrow and I feel like it's still too early to go bc he'd be in his car seat most of the time, which tbh he doesn't mind, he loves his car seat but i don't like him to be in there for too long.

Breakfast (weaning)

I want to give my son a variety of breakfast as he’s turning 6months in few days he’s been having Weetabix which he loves. However I’ve also been giving organic porridge but I just feel like the texture is really gooey. Is there any recommendations for another porridge obviously without all the sugar etc.

Scared to leave baby with partner?

Is anyone else scared to leave their baby with their partner for long periods of time? My partner is so supportive and he is absolutely amazing with our little one however he is still very colicky and I know my husband doesn’t have the same level of patience as me and will loose his temper. He would never ever become aggressive towards the baby but his stress levels would rise to the max then I feel guilty. Sometimes I could deal with it all day then he gets like this after an hour of being with the baby when he finishes work so then I feel guilty needing that moment??

SAHM vent

I can never understand why men think being a sahm is so easy when it is absolutely not says things like “I wish I could stay home and play with the kids all day” he works in now collar mon-fri doesn’t get off till 1 am then goes to gym and doesn’t get in bed till 4 am sleeps till it’s time for him to go to work again I never really see him anymore I’m around a baby abd and a toddler all day long feel like I’m going insane now he picking up overtime shifts witch for his job instead of staying late but overtime is on the weekends on the days that they’re supposed to be off so 7 days a week work gym sleep that’s his life I would just like 1 hour a day to spend time if he is gonna keep working overtime weekends then I just want him to cut out the gym for now but I don’t wanna start a useless argument I’m just so mentally drained