SAHM vent

I can never understand why men think being a sahm is so easy when it is absolutely not says things like “I wish I could stay home and play with the kids all day” he works in now collar mon-fri doesn’t get off till 1 am then goes to gym and doesn’t get in bed till 4 am sleeps till it’s time for him to go to work again I never really see him anymore I’m around a baby abd and a toddler all day long feel like I’m going insane now he picking up overtime shifts witch for his job instead of staying late but overtime is on the weekends on the days that they’re supposed to be off so 7 days a week work gym sleep that’s his life I would just like 1 hour a day to spend time if he is gonna keep working overtime weekends then I just want him to cut out the gym for now but I don’t wanna start a useless argument I’m just so mentally drained

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How long are his shifts that he’s getting off at one in the morning

4:30-1am it’s a 45 min drive from where we live

I'm on the flip side and I really do wish that I could be at home with my children like he's saying. Could you ask him not to do the overtime? And when does he start his job? I wouldn't ask him not to the gym x

My husband knows this isn’t easy. He hears and sees what is going on. My husband works 80 hours a week and is only off on Sundays. Even then on Sundays we have breakfast, go to church, go grocery shopping, go run errands, then go for a walk in the afternoon if it isn’t too hot. We don’t actually get home and sit down till probably 5-7pm. His schedule consists of gym, work, coming home cooking dinner (sometimes if the baby is being clingy to me), spending a hour with me, then sleep. It’s possible to sit a hour aside for you. I hate to be that person that says this but if he wanted to he would. My husbands job is blue collar as well and his hours he starts can be at 12 am and doesn’t get home till 7pm or start at 7am not get off till 8pm then have to be up at 2am. He still makes time for me and our daughter no matter what. Just have a talk and tell him you need him to be more present for you and your kids. I promise you, if my husband can do it and only get 2-6 hours of sleep so can he.

Is there a reason he's working overtime? I mean he goes to sleep at 4am he could definitely wake up before lunch and spend the afternoon with your children?

We are also a one income household, so I get that, but I'd never sacrifice all my weekends. I'd say he needs to get up early and spend time with you all and half his overtime shifts x

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