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I’m currently 36 weeks pregnant and the whole pregnancy I was adamant about having an elective c section as my 1st baby (he’s 1) was an emergency c section and tomorrow I have a consultation appointment at the hospital to sign c section forms and to go through the birth plan. Yesterday I had a complete 180 and I’m now wanting a vbac for multiple reasons. I haven’t done any exercises to help my body prepare for that kind of birth and I’m now thinking I left it too late to have a vbac successfully. Has this happened to anyone before? Also what do I need to pack in my hospital bag for a vbac?

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Born at 42+1 weeks 🩵

Lennie, born at 04:20 this morning in our living room. Trust your bodies ladies.

6 week check up

Did anyone else expect that they would be asked how they are feeling/healing as well as the baby’s development/check up at 6 weeks?

Not sure if I was a bit naive expecting the doc to ask about how I was doing after forceps / episiotomy birth.. and if stitches had healed ok?

I can’t be the only one? 😭

Hi everyone. 🤍 I’m Lauren, 35 years old, and I’m currently 7 weeks 5 days pregnant with my first baby.

To be honest… I’m really scared, and I just need to know I’m not alone.

This pregnancy has hit me so much harder than I ever imagined. I’m dealing with:

* Extreme exhaustion where I feel like I could sleep all day.
* Severe pregnancy insomnia where I’m somehow exhausted but awake most of the night.
* Constant nausea, dry heaving, and food aversions.
* Anxiety that’s been through the roof.
* Crying almost every day.
* Feeling guilty no matter what I think or do.
* Carpal tunnel pain in both hands that wakes me up.
* Dry lips, feeling dehydrated, and just generally feeling like my body isn’t my own anymore.

Mentally has been the hardest part though.

My relationship has become really strained since finding out we’re expecting. Instead of feeling excited, I’ve been overwhelmed with fear about our future, wondering if we’ll even make it through this together. Some days I feel hopeful, and other days I feel completely alone. I hate admitting that because this baby deserves parents who are excited, and I wish I felt more like myself.

I feel guilty because I thought pregnancy was supposed to be this beautiful experience, and instead I feel like I’m barely surviving some days. I’m terrified that I’m going to feel like this for months.

Has anyone else struggled this much in the first trimester? Did it actually get better? And if your relationship became difficult during pregnancy… did you find your way back to each other?

I could really use some encouragement right now because I’m scared, overwhelmed, and honestly just need to hear that I’m not alone. 🤍

Sending love to anyone else who’s having a really hard time too. 🫶🏼

Baby Name Ideas?

I’m pregnant with my second baby and don’t know the gender yet, so I need boy and girl name ideas! My son’s name is Xander, so I want it to go with that. Edgy, but not too out there. Our last name is Tooke (pronounced took). Thank you!

Bad back - post C Section

Anyone else struggling? I’m nearly 5 weeks pp but it came on about a week ago

If you were aiming for a VBAC, how many weeks pregnant did you have your consultation appointment?

Immediately at my midwife booking appointment I told the midwives then that I wanted a VBAC, they told me I would have a consultation around 28 weeks. At my 16 week appointment I brought it up again (different midwife) and she told me it would be around 32 weeks. When I had my 28 week midwife appointment, she told me it's usually 36 weeks (which seems very late to me) and said if I didn't have an appointment letter by 34 weeks she would follow up. Obviously I don't want this to be last minute because I want to know my chances and options without everything being rushed if I CAN'T have a VBAC. This pregnancy has been stressful enough, having last minute changes would just make things 10X worse. So just wondering when everyone had their consultation appointment? When I looked online it said between 16 and 28 weeks then a final one at 32-34 weeks 😭