Is it morally wrong to insist on partner following up on prediabetes, if he doesn't want to?

has he made active changes to help with the condition?

Uhm I'd tell him to stop being stupid. He's responsible for looking after a family so he better take his health seriously.

Being scared is understandable but refusing to get checked at all and take up the appropriate treatment is not.

If this was cancer I'd be more inclined to respect his refusal for treatment.

I believe they check again in a year, I’d suggest they makes a deal. If they doesn’t want to get checked, they should at-least make active changes to their lifestyle. Since it’s still prediabetes, it can be reversed, but ofcourse, they have to be willing to commit to it.

Do you guys have kids? Cuz damn that feels so selfish to not do everything to live a healthy life for your kids. Can you come from that angle? It irks me so bad because my partner is type 1 diabetic, not reversible and we'd do everything under the sun to change it so he can live a long healthy life

Personally I don’t think so. I guess I can see how some people would think it is because “your body your choice” or whatever. But I don’t think there’s anything wrong with genuinely caring about your spouses health. I basically forced my husband to get a skin check recently and I don’t feel bad about it lol.

Diabetes is not a disease that you want to ignore. You won't "die happy" as you said. It is painful, can be dehumanizing and slow, or super quick. As in gone in a day. My ex had diabetes, he constantly checked his extremities because he was worried of losing limbs. Which is common in unchecked diabetes. This affects everything if you can no longer walk, run, or work how you need to. If he gets sick enough he can't work, he can't support his family. If it's really not bad and his sugar were to crash he could end up in a coma. If it spikes he's in the hospital. Even if it isn't that crazy out of control, it affects your ability to heal, sleep, or think. He isn't his optimal self and likely feels it. He just thinks of it as normal, or a consequence of aging.

He is prediabetic. If you guys can get his health under control, why wouldn't you? You don't know if your life changes have had the effect you need it to without the medical tests. It's all preventative right now. You don't want to end up on a pump.

I think if talking about it hasn’t worked and your dead set on doing something about it, not stocking sugary drinks & unhealthy foods in the house would be a decent place to start at perhaps? Like if you keep only helpful, healthy safe foods and drinks stocked up maybe the life style changes would just happen.
But he’s an adult who could just stay eating & drinking not ideal choices outside the home regardless so 🤷‍♀️

The reality is doing SOMEWHAT better MOST THE TIME is far more helpful than sticking to the same routine that got you there without trying to better your diet or lifestyle at all. 🤷‍♀️

my dad had a chronic disease he ignored. he should've lived a long and happy life. his fear, and the denial that it manifested as, ruined his marriage and he died at least a decade too early, without warning, because he refused to monitor it. diabetes is SO manageable if you take it seriously; my grandma got diagnosed with prediabetes and is now 91, no signs of slowing down! apply all the pressure you can, in my opinion.