Elective C-Section

So I’ve been advised to think about a c-section, and need all the information I can get right now. I am really nervous but I think it’ll be the safest option for me. If anyone has had this before please let me know.

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I had a section with my first and I’ll be electing to have one this time around too. The recover is hard but it’s a really calm experience and would recommend it to anyone.

Mine was an emergency so can't fully comment on that but what are the reasons you've been advised to think about a c section for?

I had an elective C-section with my first son for non-medical reasons and it was so stress free... Even when it got delayed later in the day, it wasn't stressful. They explained everything and I didn't even know you could have your own music playing during it. My husband got to stay with me the entire time, from when we arrived, to even being present for the spinal and right till we got discharged. No complications, didn't need the injections after and recovered very well. I was out 2 days after my C-Section for a walk. If I had any advice, it would be to bring peppermint gum for the trapped gas after or you can ask for a special medicine the hospital has to help with it. Also, to get on your feet as soon as you're able to after the C-SECTION. I actually asked them to take my catheter out early because I found it was hindering me and any progress

Make sure you ask loads of questions, including the risks associated with C-section so that you can make a fully informed decision. The NHS is leaning more and more on intervention led births with 45% of births now taking place by C-section. Benefits and risks of all of the options available to you are not always fully explained, often making women feel that they don’t have the choice.
I had an emergency C-section with my first, I was really anxious but in reality it was ok and recovery was quick. But I know this isn’t always the case as it’s major surgery so feel that women need to be better informed to be able to decide what is the best choice for them. I am hoping for a VBAC this time because I am conscious that recovery will mean that I won’t be able to lift my 2 year old for weeks.

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Hugo, wanky or ok?

Hey,

I would love your help. I have my girl name but am in a pickle when it comes to a boy name we’ve chosen.

I’m Australian and my husband is Irish. The baby will be born in London, not sure where it will grow up long term but it will be one of the above.

I adore the name Hugo. My husband took some convincing but is now on board.

However! Since deciding, the reaction has been that it’s ‘upity’ ‘wanky’, ‘linen boy vibes’ and signals ‘social reaching’! I was shocked - after some research it seems in Europe it’s a pretty chill normal name, which was my interpretation, but potentially in Ireland / UK that’s not how it’s perceived.

It’s really spooked me, and totally turned my husband off.

Any help would be much appreciated - is Hugo considered a wanky name?

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Should I wear it to the party on Saturday?

Baby boy is here🥹❤️

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C section massage

I am almost 8 weeks pp after having a surprise c section. I’ve been cleared to return to any and all activities for a few weeks and have seen a lot about c section massage to reduce the appearance of the shelf (which seems to be the result of internal stitches and a tiny bit of extra fat/skin left over from pregnancy) but no one has given much guidance. When can I start massaging the scar and how do I determine how much pressure/movement is appropriate? Just by how it feels or should I wait longer before starting? Thanks in advance!

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Had a early gender scan at 14 weeks told was a boy..... 20 week scan today its a girl. Anyone else have this 😅

Saw a ghost??

I'm a sceptical person so any perspective on this would be great, I feel like my friends and partner would not understand.

Fyi I am sleep deprived yes with an 11month old, averaging 4-6 hours of sleep a night. For the last 11 months.

But anyway here is my story.
I saw like a little girl shape in my 5 year olds room out of the corner of my eye, then when I got back into bed I opened my eyes and this like smiley exagerared face was like right there, when I blinked it was just a bunch of blankets but the face kept coming back, smiling inches from my face.

I didnt react btw to either. I also a few weeks ago saw the dame figure/shape almost on top of where my daughter was sleeping in the middle of the night. I was reading her a book to help her fall back asleep and I could not bring myself to look directly at her as I was freaked out.

I dont want to believe if it is a ghost that is is malicious, but my child has been having more nightmares the last 3 weeks or so and this all happened in this time span.

Im tempted to just politely say out loud you are welcome here but you have to be nice lol any thoughts? Have I gone nuts? Can anyone relate?