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Feeling dumb and alone

I’m 7 months pregnant today. My child’s father and I just can’t seem to work. I’m feeling so guilty for bringing a child into a broken home, and feeling so alone. I know it sounds dumb but I’m missing intimacy which I haven’t had in so long. I also can’t get over the fact that I’ll have to share custody with him, I can’t imagine handing my baby over to him and not being able to keep him with me. I can’t believe this is how my first pregnancy is going. I don’t think I will ever forgive myself for doing this and will never forgive my child’s father for not doing what he needs to for us.
I have never felt so dumb, so alone, and just shameful.

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Hey beautiful, I’m going through the exact same thing 😩 try to stay positive, you may not end up having to share custody

i’m going through the same thing right now, praying for us mamas ❤️

Hi I'm sorry you're feeling low at the moment. Don't let yourself go down that rabbit hole because it takes two people to make a relationship work and we all make mistakes! We can't control the way life goes sometimes. Forgiveness is important to feel free of all the sadness anger and guilt. I've been in a 14 yr relationship since I was 15 yrs old and I am just now learning how to do this. Be patient with yourself and allow yourself to sit with your feelings so you can make the right decisions for yourself and for your child. I've learned that sometimes together isn't always better

Hey girl speaking from experience you may have some rocky patches but me and my child’s father get on soo much better now that we are just friends instead of in a relationship and don’t you dare feel guilty because regardless of the situation your gonna be the best mama and all they need is your love ❤️

Same situation but you’ll be ok!!!!!!

How would you have known that things turned out like this?! Girl give yourself some peace 🩷 you’ll be such a wonderful mom 🥹 really I believe you will. Please stop for a second take a couple breaths and embrace your belly. YOU are strong as heck! You’ll get through this with your baby hand in hand. You’ll see once you give birth things will cool down. Thinking of you xox

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Housework and kids

Would love to know some opinions.

I was with a mum friend and she made a comment (wasn’t to be mean or offend me) but it did make me think.
We were talking about cleaning/housework and saying how having kids and keeping up with the house was hard. I then said I clean as I go, l spend 10 mins after meal times cleaning or I’ll let my little one have some free play while I put washing on or away, hoovering ect.

She was really taken aback and said oh no she lets it build during the day and then once her kids are in bed then cleans, tidies and gets all the jobs done. She thinks that doing it while they are awake is taking time away from the kids and being with them.

I’m really interested to know what people think and what you do? Because I feel a bit guilty now maybe In looking at the housework all wrong? But for me personally I can’t sit with mess all around me it makes me feel suffocated.

No understanding

I was at a soft play with my 20 month old son today and there was a sand pit area.
My son was really excited and after a few minutes of being there he picked up some sand and threw it into the air. Unfortunately some landed on a boy playing next to him so I told him that we don't throw sand and took him out of the sand pit.
I apologised to who I think was the boy's grandma and she just shook her head angrily. I understand that sand can get in eyes and children need to eventually learn that we shouldn't throw it but I feel like some people show no understanding or kindness when its a toddler who clearly didn't mean to hurt anyone.
It also crossed my mind that the woman might be racist as my son isn't white and she was already giving off a bad energy.

If you saw another child pushing your child and the mum wasnt doing anything what would you do?

This is in the playground

Should I be annoyed?? Husband rant!

I've broken two fingers in my dominant hand. I can just about eat with my left hand and that's it. My fingers are strapped up and I'm in a lot of pain.

First thing my husband said was "you're still doing the housework tomorrow" I said thank you for being so caring and considerate.

Anyway I came home and he had done most of the housework but still left me to do the upstairs. Cleaning bathrooms, hoovering, dusting etc. It's taken me three hours as I had to stop and start due to the pain and my husband still managed to make snide remarks about the quality of my cleaning and how long it was taking..

What does rhis look like?

My child has been at a nursery and has higher care needs than some of the children in there and is non verbal and 3 and a half years old. She isn't agressive and screams when people go too close to her alot in general. Never had any issues with nursrery and all the staff have always been great. Then twins started a few days ago and never thought much of it on day one she screamed when one come near her on pick up. The same day she had an unusual two very small rounded bruises on the top of her foot. Then today the staff said a boy scratched her and they had to move him away. I was very calm and fine as it was made to sound minor like more over excited and more like an accident in that type of way. I come home shes crying alot so i start running a bath as she loves water and waterplay put all the toys in and I see this mark on her. I'm not sure what it is but its more than a little scratch. I'm actually really upset as this must have really hurt her and she cant explain whats happened. It's actually made me scared now. I understand accidents happen and staff cant be at every child all at once but this is horrible. I also dont want to cause problems with the nursery as they have honestly bren so good with her. Also my younger child due to start there september and she has additional needs in a different way but cant talk and more physical/muscle and swallowing problems. What does it look like? A bite? An object ? What would you do next?

Would you give your 5 year old baby food pouches, teething wafers, and yogurt melts?

I'm genuinely confused and kinda concerned why a parent would choose to do this when their child that has no special needs or dietary restrictions.