How should we split it?

I work half the week and look after our toddler for the other half. My husband works full-time and I think he earns around 3-4 times more than I do.
He covers almost all of the bills but still seems have much more disposable income than I do.
I'm thinking of asking him if we can both pay all of our wages into a joint account, where bills and savings etc come out from, then we both take the same amount for personal spending. I don't know if he'll want to keep his income private or think that he should keep more of his earnings because he works more (even though I'm looking after our child for half the week).
What do you think?

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Mixed emotions

Hey guys, I’m really struggling with my emotions atm. I recently found out I’m pregnant with baby number 3, and don’t get me wrong, I am so happy to be welcoming another baby… I just didn’t think it would happen so soon, as it took us 2 years to conceive both of our other children (this time literally took a couple of months).

I can’t help but feel so disheartened that I can’t fully join in on the events we had/ have planned. My best friend has asked me to join her for some drinks for the past 3 weekends and I’ve had to think of an excuse each time to say no.

I know that this probably sounds so stupid, and might come across ungrateful for the life I’m creating (which I can assure you is not the case), but I absolutely love to socialise and adore the occasional night out… and I feel so guilty for feeling this way!!! My husband is about to head out for some drinks, and I can’t help but feel so jealous of him! I don’t remember feeling this way with either of my previous pregnancies, so I’m hoping I’m not the only one here that’s struggling with this? 🥺

I want to beat my husband in an argument ❤️😂

For context this is a funny argument. Not serious.
So I’m freshly 6 months postpartum and breast feeding. Our baby is going through severe sleep regression and wakes up every 30-40mins for a snack on the booby. If I don’t give it to him he wake up in hysterics. So I tend to get very hungry in the middle of the night and I’ll make my self a snack platter.

That being said when he gets up in the morning for work I’m either still awake or only slept for 30mins. So I haven’t cleaned up all my snacks on my bedside. This goes on through out the day and I accumulate maybe 5 snacks wrapper or a drink container. He said no other woman does this and I’m messy and should clean it up right away.

Given the baby is a Velcro I tend to clean the whole once every two days to three days where I put an hour of dedicated time to deep cleaning everything but with the snacks. I clean them up at night when I refill my snacks and water.

So here’s the debate he says if I can talk to other women who do this and actually prove my point he will apologize. (We are laughing about this but I just want to be right that breastfeeding hunger and little to no time to sleep puts a delay on the little things) 😁🥰

Be honest I’m not sensitive lol.

2yo Birthday presents!

I'm trying to get a head start for my sons 2nd birthday (since I'll be moving right before it) so I would LOVE any recommendations on toys if you have any!
Bonus points if they help with speech or encourage gross motors skills!
TIA😊

Question for those who just started solids

Hey mamas.

This may be a silly question but im curious to know. For those who just started solids, how are you feeding your LO when you are out? What are they sitting on?

Marrital advice!

Hello! I need some advice on how to handle this situation. My husband and I (mostly me) are upset because we’re not seeing eye to eye on home stuff. He is being opinionated about home decor and furniture, which is fine as long as we come to an agreement, which we have. Here’s the current issue: I am very much like “no purpose-don’t want it”, so I am constantly cleaning out the closets, donating stuff and being intentional to not create clutter and accumulate stuff we don’t need. He is the opposite. He likes extravagant furniture and likes to have a lot of things that we don’t need. Like he accepted shoes for our son that are definitely too small, which he knew before taking them. He also accepted a TV from his mom that we don’t need. We already have 2 and barely use those. My fear with that is that he will put it in his game room and then spend more time there instead of with his family. He also likes to keep screws for the TV that we don’t need. I tell him that we can afford to buy screws when we need them. Anyways, idk how to handle this without making him feel bad. We just downsized from a house to an apartment, for context, and we had to repurchase a lot of furniture and reorganize lots of things in the process. Any advice welcome! 🙏

Have to vent … I’m tired

I’m so exhausted …. I don’t have anyone I can go move with for me and my kids ….. I’m stuck with an abusive husband that constantly beats me up, put guns to my head , throw my clothes in the dumpster , smash my phones to pieces , and locks me outside from 9 am till the following morning …… then is forcing poly on me while claiming that he’s a pimp . Will be on the phone with women in my face having hours long conversations, going to sit outside in the car with them … will talk bad about me to any and everybody …. But then wants to fight and threatening me when I try to find ways to leave …. I’m tired , I’m exhausted , I’m depressed , I’m overwhelmed , and I’m starting to feel less than …. I’m almost to the point of no return …. The police out here won’t do much …. And if I do get him locked up once he makes bond i know I’ll be dead …..