Ladies help…

I feel so broken & confused… I have been told by a few people that my fiancé had an outside child on me, while we are together. I have not mentioned it to him as of yet because I don’t know how. Then what it’s not true but what if it is… We have a child together and this would crush me if it’s true. Especially with us talking about having another child after we get married next summer. I can’t see myself marrying him if he cheated. To make it even worse it suppose to be from his baby momma who he say he despise and always bad mouthing. But sitting here thinking I don’t feel that he really does, it’s starting to look like a show to put on so it doesn’t look so suspicious. How do I bring this topic up? What if it’s true? I really have to walk away from a man I built and poured into, the family we’ve created and memories that was made.

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Baby food from family member

I received some Amazon packages from my aunt all items for my 7 month old daughter. She sent jars and pouches of baby food and a can of formula. I love my aunt and all that she has done for me and my daughter. The thing is I make all my daughter’s food from scratch just bc I feel better knowing whats exactly in the food I feed her. And the can of formula she sent is not the brand we use. After having difficulty with breastfeeding, I researched so many brands to make sure I was going to give my daughter a clean nontoxic formula. The brand she sent has been identified with having mercury in it.

I know she sent it all out of love but I don’t want her to keep sending her stuff if we’re not going to use it but I also don’t want to sound ungrateful. Should I say something or no?

I'm really disappointed

My 40th birthday is Tuesday. I told my wife I wanted to go fishing. We did it like 10 years ago and had a great time. My wife spoke with her mama and was told renting a charter was frivolous and too expensive. She told me we would get push back from her parents if we went. I told her to forget about it. Don't worry we won't go. But in my heart, I feel like I was just told I'm not worthy of celebrating. I'm not worth the time or money. My inlaws just went to Tennessee for 8 days to celebrate FILs birthday... and we were going to pay for the trip ($400 for the charter, $150 for the hotel room so we don't have to get up before the sun, and any food we had while there) The inlaws could have either come with or stayed behind and watch little man. But I'm not worth it. Too much celebration for just me. We screw it. It will just be Tuesday. Don't worry. I'm used to being forgotten about. I will live. But let's just see how much I invest into this family.

Would it be weird if I added her on fb ?

So we live in quite a rural area , there’s a crescent at the top of my lane that’s pretty much just full of kids with a park in the middle of the houses. Now we live like half way down the big lane so not as close to the kids as my son would like lol.
There’s an older kid who drives up and down on his bike I want to say about 9-10 who regularly asks if he can come in my garden to play with my son.
He stays for a couple hours at a time sometimes , I’ll ask if him mum knows where he is and he says yes.
He’ll ask for snacks when I’m giving them my toddler and I’m okay giving them in just worried him mum wouldn’t be okay with it or if he has allergies ?
Should I just add her on fb ? But then do I message her ? Is that weird ???
She’s popped up on my people you may know & I know it’s her as she’s a picture of the son in her pfp but she might have no clue who I am and that her sons been here ? Idk I’m definitely overthinking it but help a girly out plz haha

Cultery

My 11mo has gotten to a stage where he wants to feed himself rather than me feeding him, but he can’t get the hang of using cutlery so still uses his hands. At what age do they usually use cutlery? Is there any tips and tricks to get your baby used to cutlery? Or, any recommendations for easy use cutlery? Thank you 😊

Ungrateful husband or frigid wife

I work in a school and I'm off for the 6 weeks so majority of childcare is on me, my husband does shift work and this week he was on a course up city so wasn't getting home until 8/9pm.

So bare in mind he's sat in a nice air conditioned board room with regular breaks and lunch and drinks paid for by the company he comes home and keeps poking at me saying he's not got his leg over In weeks, he's never nasty about but it's everyday its "oh it would be nice to have something else" or just makes some sort of sexual induendo.

My reply to that is I'm tired, Ive entertained our son, fed him his breakfasts, lunches & dinners, taken him to nice places, walked the dog, cleaned up the house each evening and done the bath and bedtime routines...by the time our son is asleep I'm ready for bed myself.

And I've told him! I said I feel like you just overlook everything I do, he normally says sorry and backs off and says he's joking etc...but its everydayyyy 🫠.

Just needed a rant. 🤣👍🏻

Don’t enjoy sitting with my kids

I love my kids, but I feel guilty af when I say I hate sitting with them. They climb on me, toys get dashed across the room. Like overtime I will find any reason to not sit on the sofa with them. I will sit on the floor and play with them but I don’t see it as a relaxing time with my kids. My son threw a toy across the room this morning, split my lip so that went in the bin. Then they’re fighting to sit in my lap. My coffee cup is going cold in the kitchen because I know for a fact if I bring it in it’ll get knocked out my hands.

My daughter’s already been in tears that I ‘don’t care about her’ because I won’t let her sit on me, for reference she’s nearly 6. I don’t understand why she can’t lay next to me and cuddle me that way, why do I have to become a pin cushion for knees and elbows. My partner practically refuses to sit in here cause they do the same to her and she feels like the living room has become the kids room because we can’t sit in here without there being fights on who gets to sit next to who. By the time the evening rolls around we’ve climbed into bed exhausted