Advice

Hi everyone,

I’m just looking for some advice or to hear from other parents who have been through something similar.

My little boy has just turned 2. He babbles a lot but isn’t saying any words yet. He responds to his name most of the time at home, gives good eye contact with me, and can follow some simple instructions. However, he doesn’t really play with toys in the typical way and often just carries one around.

I really struggle taking him out to places like the park, the farm or soft play. He doesn’t seem interested in the activities like other children are and would much rather push his pram around. Today I noticed he didn’t really seem interested in the other children either. They were running around and playing together, but he just wanted to do his own thing. I often come home feeling upset because I see other children enjoying everything while he doesn’t seem interested. Lately I’ve been feeling really overwhelmed, and sometimes I wonder if there’s any point in taking him out because he never seems to enjoy it.

He gets frustrated quite easily, especially with toys like shape sorters, even though I’ve shown him lots of times how to use them. Recently he’s also started putting his fingers in his ears even when there’s no loud noise.

We’re already under Speech and Language Therapy and are waiting for our next appointment, but I’d really appreciate hearing from parents who’ve experienced something similar. Did your child go on to talk? Did they become more interested in other children and activities as they got older? What helped?

Thank you ❤️

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Hello, from what you're describing my son was the same and has been diagnosed autistic. It's worth speaking to your GP and asking for a referral to get him assessed if that's what you would want.
Obviously being assessed has it's advantages later in life such as help in schooling ect.

As for not talking don't worry .. Einstein didn't talk til he was 5!! He will when he wants to ❤️

My daughter only said a few words at 2 but I think it was around 2.5 all of sudden she just wouldn’t stop talking. It seemed to coincide with imaginary play coming into effect. Prior to that she wasn’t great at playing with things unless it was all directed by me. With regard to playing with other kids, that is so developmentally normal at age 2. My daughter never played with other kids and stuck to her own business until a few months ago after she turned 3, now she loves playing with other kids. She calls all children her friends.

I understand your feelings of frustration, I used to feel a bit like that, as if I would take my kid out to do all these fun things and it was kind of wasted on her. But not anymore. So personally I’d persist, your son will most likely follow the “normal” developmental path.

I get why you might think your child is neurodiverse though like these other commenters are saying, but it’s really early and a lot of that stuff is normal development.

Hi there, please dont be disheartened by his lack of interest. He wants to play but its just that he wants to play in a different way. Try observing what he does and join in. He might not like it at first but eventually he will start to let you play but in his way. Look for things he does and try to build on it. For example, my little boy didnt stack blocks, he sorted them or threw them in the air, so i copied him and then once this was established he started stacking them when i showed him again. He like to spin around, so i got him a spinny chair, which he loves. Ours is slowly starting to take interest in other kids, whereas before he didnt even notice them. He may be covering his ears because he is feeling overwhelmed or overstimulated. Maybe offer reassurance or security like a hug. Our little one is 4 tomorrow and unfortunately doesnt speak yet but he is using non-verbal communication, which may be helpful for your little one while he's working on his words. We take him out but at quiet times.

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