How long does your “adult time” usually last?!

My husband is convinced that going for an hour plus every time is normal and that I should be thrilled. I prefer a good 15 to 20 max start to finish. I rarely am in the mood cause I know i’m about to lose a full hour to hour and a half of personal time especially since we have two small children so my personal time is precious 😩. Do you guys have hour long sessions all the time or is this abnormal and i’m actually not crazy for not enjoying it?! It’s also not every now and again it’s EVERY SINGLE TIME.

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Never had an hour long session ever in my life lol I wouldn’t want one either

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Eh yeah but that’s like back rubbing and rubbing and stuff and leading up to things. Somtimes things could go longer if one of us finishes first then we have to switch things around. But I’d say an hour is a normal. Maybe 30 min if we are both already super in the mood

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my husband and i used to go for an hour or so but now with a toddler (who doesn’t sleep through the night) and a baby we know we are getting 15-30 mins. we’ve been interrupted so many times so there’s always a lot of pressure to be fast lol and i’m completely fine with that bc im always exhausted and want to enjoy time to myself too

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Before we had our baby, yes. Especially when we were both still active at the gym.

Now, on average 20/30 minutes at minimum. It really all depends on foreplay, sometimes we skip it sometimes we don’t. Sometimes it’s only aimed at me, after we’ve had sex. I prefer he finishes before me, because once I’m done.. im done and snoring.

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So true! Mine has always taken ages to climax but he says he enjoys every minute. He loves to stop and switch it up etc but we just don’t have time. That or I’m trying to sleep buddy, make it quick 😭

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My vagina hurts just thinking about an hour

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1hr usually. But that’s sex foreplay sex foreplay sex foreplay 😂 we jump back and forth, change positions many times, there’s a point I’m on top he’s not moving coz I’m grinding Im trying to orgasm lol that whole hour is not all penetration (I can’t cum through just penetration) oh and I usually cum 3/4 times so there’s that.

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