Chemical Pregnancy/Early Miscarriage Support

Admitted to hospital

I found out on Saturday that my baby did not have a heart beat, since then the bleeding as been light. I woke up at 2am with severe heavy bleeding and clots coming out of me. I went to A&E as I was fainting and vomiting everytime the blood came out of me.
I have been kept in overnight due to my blood pressure dropping and the amount of blood I have lost.
My question is, is this generally what happens with a miscarriage? We have a tiny family and the thing I wanted more than anything was to give my daughter a sibling but after this experience I really don’t think I can risk going through this again with another pregnancy!

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July 27, baby August made his debut!

Coming at you live from the newborn trenches, ladies! Officially into the second week of motherhood, and as difficult as it is, good god was it worth every second of pain (newborn tired is better than pregnancy tired and I will die on that hill)

Excited to connect with other July moms. We got this!! 🩵🫡🫠

Am i normal?

I'm 9 months pp. I'm the biggest I've ever been, I am really trying to lose weight but it's not seeming to be shifting. I feel run down, ugly and just like the shell of myself. I love my baby with every part of me but I feel like I'm lost. I don't know my style, I don't know what I enjoy. I don't know what I want to do with what little free time I have.
I'm so burnt out constantly and tired I don't think any amount of sleep will fix me. I feel like I have to rush my way through anything where I'm away from my baby. Constantly comparing my worth to someone else and feeling less because I'm bigger. This is all tied to other people making comments about my weight and almost saying I'm less attractive now.
I feel like I'm failing at everything. I try my best with the housework, cooking nutritious meals and looking after everything and everyone but I'm bored. I feel like its an endless cycle of make food, clean up after making food, laundry, housework, changing nappies, bedtime and then I'm just doomscrolling because i have no capacity, I know my life will never get any easier and I'm living to make sure my baby is well looked after. I want her to have everything I didn't have and more.
I love my husband, my family is ok but we're not close. I don't really have many friends and a lot of the time I feel really alone like I have no one to talk to.
I know my life is good, I have a supportive husband, a nice house (although messy) a beautiful baby so I am grateful but is this normal? Does everyone feel so overwhelmed, burnt out and not sure who they are or what brings them joy? Is this part of motherhood and matrescence or is there something wrong with me?

I don't know how to enjoy my birthday. Advice?

My birthday is coming up (I'm a Virgo for those who partake and wanna know). My birthday has never been a good experience for me. When I was not married I would go to breakfast alone, go to work, go home and eat a whole cheese pizza while crying. No one ever remembers my birthday or plans something nice for me. If I wanna do something it's all my own labour that goes into it. Advice on how to change this? Yes I'm the oldest daughter lol.

Midwife experience

I had my first booking appointment with a midwife at Whipps Cross last week, and she turned out to be worryingly incompetent. Any views of that hospital?

How long to get dating scan confirmation??

I had a midwife appointment last week on Wednesday I was 9 weeks 6 days so close to
10 weeks. She said I’d get confirmation soon about when my dating scan 12 weeks would be but I still haven’t heard anything. I really want to know when I’ll get booked in how long did it take you all?

20w scan

Is it normal to not have second scan until 22 weeks? Feeling apprehensive about everything as it feels so long before getting reassurance.