Kissing babies
I'm just wanting to hear everyone's opinions because my boyfriend and I still can't agree, I think we are both struggling to understand eachothers pov? When my baby was born we both had an agreement that nobody is allowed to kiss our baby, I made this clear with all of my family and friends very early on. We went to visit his gran a couple of weeks ago after she was sadly diagnosed with a brain tumour and told she has a short amount of time left. It was her first time meeting my child and sadly, perhaps the last due to distance(although we are hoping to visit in the near future🤞🏻). When we was there she kissed him on two occasions and when I pulled my partner on it he thought I was cruel for saying she can't kiss our baby as she is dying. I am happy for her to hold him, cuddle him all the rest .. I just don't want anybody to kiss him as I don't think it's worth the risk. He said there's a higher risk bringing him in the car than having his gran kiss our baby. For background context my father is of a similar age to his gran, he has Parkinson's, dementia and has previously suffered a stroke.. he lives across the water from us and everytime we see him I don't know if it's the last but I continously tell him he can't kiss our baby. I'm worried if we visit again this will be a problem as we argued over this on a few occasions. Am I in the wrong?
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I also have the rule about kissing the baby so totally se your point of view, but it’s a really hard one and I can see your boyfriends point of view too with the situation! Maybe a compromise could be if she kissed the top of his head/anywhere away from his face so the risk of him catching anything is minimised ☺️
I dont really understand why her dying is relevant. If youve both agreed no kissing because of the risk to the baby, her illness / dying doesnt change the risk to your baby. If she is in hospital or regularly going to clinical places, she may actually pose a higher risk to your baby. I personally would forget about when she kissed your baby in the past, but you should uphold your rule around everyone else and if she does see your baby again, remind her not to kiss him x
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