Being treated like a know-it-all and feeling guilty for having a chill baby
I have 2 kids, my eldest is 3 and my youngest is 4 months old.
I have started going to more classes with my baby and have been meeting with and talking to other mums which has been lovely. I didn't do it so much last time because I had pretty bad anxiety and really struggled generally.
As a second-time mum I do feel far more confident and comfortable, but with that being said she is a totally different baby to her brother and I'm still learning new things every day. I do not see myself as a very experienced parent lol
None of the other mums I have been chatting to have any other kids, they're all first time mums, so I try to refrain from talking about my bigger kid mainly because they might not be interested in the toddler stuff yet and I don't want to come across like I'm trying to say I have more on my plate or that I have it harder or something, because having just one baby is hard enough and I don't want them to feel invalidated. Idk if I'm making sense. Anyways.
My baby girl is really chilled out. (Completely different from her brother who was a reflux velcro baby who never slept a full night til he was 2 and only napped on me)
Baby girl sleeps anywhere, feeds and then burps and barely spits up, she had a little bit of silent reflux as a newborn but it doesn't bother her anymore. She's so smiley and just generally easier but I don't know if it just feels easier because i have a bit more confidence in myself.
Whenever the other mums are complaining and venting I struggle to add to the conversation and relate. They've obviously picked up on it and will make comments like "...but not *my baby*, she doesn't do that does she?" Or "you'll not know what I mean" if they're talking about relentless crying or lack of sleep etc.
I do say that my son was very similar and baby girl just has a different nature, I joke she's just a bit lazy like her dad 😅 She sleeps through the night but I haven't told anyone because I can just imagine the eye rolls. Maybe once every few days she will randomly wake up, but I just feed her back to sleep. I just lie and say she does that every night.
They will sometimes ask for advice but it seems like they're trying to get me to admit to some top secret methods I must be using to have a chill baby when in reality that's just how she is. We're very lucky she hasn't had any milk issues or medical issues, I have no idea how she sleeps so well, she's just a high-sleep needs kind of baby so will happily nod off if I get the timing right. I just google most things honestly. If I'm struggling to understand her shifting wake windows as she gets older I just google it and readjust. I've told them that and they say they can't figure it out and their babies only nap for 20 minutes. I say that's also really normal but idk, I just keep quiet now and feel awkward.
