Formula!

Hola mamis! I’m gonna start giving my baby formula so he can get more weight. I don’t really know too much about it, do any of you know the difference between the formulas? Which one is better? Which one has less artificial and not healthy ingredients?

My son is 11 weeks.
Thank you 🙏🏽

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Spilt Milk

I know how the saying goes, but I am absolutely sobbing.
The jar had around 34 to 36 ounces..
my daughter is going to stay with her father tonight so I worked so hard yesterday to make sure I filled it up and then some, so that she would have what she needed.
We didn’t get good sleep last night. Half asleep this morning I go to fill up a bottle and this happens…
We have some frozen stock but this broke my heart.

May have said something bad unintentionally

So a few weeks ago I went to see my cousins baby she's now 5 months old I held her once and interacted with her ect then gave her back to her dad they offered me to hold her again

It just came out and I said I'm okay I'm not really a baby person

I know some people love to hold baby's and cuddle but that not really me.

I wish I had t said it now I feel like a knob I just ment that's I was okay not to hold her again and that I would be more interactive once she's a lil older eg sitting up and crawling ect I find smaller babies quiet fragile I was even like this with my own , I didn't mean it wrong , how can I apologize or am I over thinking it

I didn't mean to offend them at all.

Sleep problems

Bit of a vulnerable post, and a long one so please bare with me.

I have a 9 month old now and for the past 5? ish months weve been having problems with napping. This has got steadily worse to the point now that it is just so so bad that my mental health cannot take it anymore and I now have ppd from the stress😒.

When I say we have tried everything, I mean absolutely everything. He will only sleep in mine and my partners bed with curtains drawn, some form of physical contact (usually hand on waist), fan on and shh'ing.

At night time he will sleep in his cot, however we have to get him to sleep in our bed and transfer after 20mins once hes in a deep enough sleep. Then one night feed. Maybe a few cries for the dummy but generally does stay asleep.

The daytime naps however are HELL. It used to be a regular ish wake window time that he would last but nap time would vary everyday, anywhere from 35mins to 2hrs. Suddenly in the past couple months he could start getting tired just 1hr after waking, whining like crazy, rubbing eyes etc. all his usual cues. Then on other days it could be 3hrs before you see those signs. Nap lengths have become more regular though, for around a month weve had 2x 1.5hr-2hr naps.

The problem is that he will absolutely fight to the death to avoid the nap. Once he crosses overtired territory, which happens fast, he just will not sleep. He also has this constant need to self regulate which stops him from sleeping rather than soothing himself. He wants to play with his feet, if hes not doing that he wants to play with his hands, if not that then playing with my hands, or flapping and hitting himself, or ripping my top, or clawing at my face.. you get the idea. This will go on from as long as 20mins to an hour and a half of trying to get him to sleep.

Weve tried everything from sticking to wake windows, to wake windows and capping naps, to putting him to sleep as soon as he shows a cue, to adjusting how long we send him to sleep after a cue, to sending him before he shows anything, to trying to tire him out. Absolutely nothing works. He is just in a constant state of overtiredness and irritability, even if we put him to sleep an hour and a half after waking.

The one thing I can say is we use a baby tracker app and he does sleep 12-14hrs a day, so he is getting enough sleep. The problem is getting him to sleep without wasting half of the day and not being able to make plans or do things without worrying if hes going to get overtired. We have no routine, nothing, and at 9 months surely that's not normal.

I am a student and going back to studying in September, which my parents will be looking after him 3 days a week. But how could i possibly leave him with them and trust that he will nap if even I cant get him to sleep most days??

Open to any suggestions, even though I've probably done it already. Or even someone to say theyve been through this would mean a lot.

If you got this far thanks for reading💕

- a stressed and depressed mummy🥺

I find my Toddler Annoying!!

He’s 4.5 and he’s just so silly all the time like he makes stupid faces when I’m talking to him and he’s just so loud and obnoxious majority of the time. Sometimes it was funny but now it’s just annoying and then he instigates his younger brother’s behaviour. Is anyone else going through this? Is it normal? What are ways to cope because I just keep rolling my eyes lol.

Needing to speak my mind

Anyone else really anxious and protective of their baby? I need to start standing up for myself and say what I feel when it comes to my baby but I get so anxious of what people will say about me. I need to speak up but I need help

Independent Sleeping/ Sleep Training

I need help with independent sleeping. My little one is 9 nearly 10 months now and I’m considering teaching her to fall asleep on her own but I’m not sure where to start. I know a lot of people do the crying it out method but idk if I want to jump right into that 🤧. Right now I usually rock her to sleep or she’ll fall asleep on the bottle or occasionally if she’s really exhausted and can’t switch off, I soothe her after she cries a little. But I can see that she’s starting to get frustrated at she can’t fall asleep on her own and trying to close her eyes and lay down to sleep but she’s struggling. So any tips on how to start or what helped other mums would be much appreciated. 💕