May have said something bad unintentionally
So a few weeks ago I went to see my cousins baby she's now 5 months old I held her once and interacted with her ect then gave her back to her dad they offered me to hold her again
It just came out and I said I'm okay I'm not really a baby person
I know some people love to hold baby's and cuddle but that not really me.
I wish I had t said it now I feel like a knob I just ment that's I was okay not to hold her again and that I would be more interactive once she's a lil older eg sitting up and crawling ect I find smaller babies quiet fragile I was even like this with my own , I didn't mean it wrong , how can I apologize or am I over thinking it
I didn't mean to offend them at all.
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Just tell them exactly what you said in your message on here š„° they'll understand x
I don't think they would even remember. I don't know anyone who would be offended by that. They were probably just being polite and felt like they should offer to let you hold the baby again.
I'm probly over thinking it as I do a lot , but just wanted some options
I do think you're probably overthinking it a little. If you'd said that to my face about my baby I wouldn't be offended. Quite the opposite š I'd appreciate the honesty. If you do want to speak to them about it I agree with the other commenters just explain it like you did above and you'll be okay x
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Spilt Milk
I know how the saying goes, but I am absolutely sobbing.
The jar had around 34 to 36 ounces..
my daughter is going to stay with her father tonight so I worked so hard yesterday to make sure I filled it up and then some, so that she would have what she needed.
We didnāt get good sleep last night. Half asleep this morning I go to fill up a bottle and this happensā¦
We have some frozen stock but this broke my heart.
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Would you correct someone elseās pronunciation for your child? How do you feel about regional/international accents?
I bumped into a mother I know at a coffee shop. I have an unusual accent, because Iām ESL and I immigrated to the UK when I was 14 so I picked up a lot of london pronunciations but I donāt generally have trouble being understood.
Her son doesnāt have any speech issues or anything, heās got a great vocabulary for 4. He is very friendly so he talks to me when we see them at the park or soft play, and he always seems to understand me.
I was speaking to my child in English and then suddenly I realised the other mother was correcting words I said for her son? I asked my daughter ādo you want some water?ā which I guess is like dyu wan some wata if I just say it quickly without thinking, and she said quite loudly āwe would say WA-TER, do you WANT some WATERā and made him repeat it back twice.
Other words I heard her correct were cloth and cheeky girl, then I started to get self conscious and making an effort to enunciate better. I was so embarrassed, she was speaking quite loudly so she must have known I could hear her. But I like my accent, it still sounds a bit like where I come from. I donāt mind if my daughter hears it and learns it, my heritage is her heritage. We only see this woman occasionally (sheās a bit condescending so I try to avoid play dates) so I doubt my accent is rubbing off on her son.
Itās been a couple days and this is still sitting with me. It feels so out of line to do that in front of the person unprompted. As long as people understand each other, does it matter?
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May have said something bad unintentionally
So a few weeks ago I went to see my cousins baby she's now 5 months old I held her once and interacted with her ect then gave her back to her dad they offered me to hold her again
It just came out and I said I'm okay I'm not really a baby person
I know some people love to hold baby's and cuddle but that not really me.
I wish I had t said it now I feel like a knob I just ment that's I was okay not to hold her again and that I would be more interactive once she's a lil older eg sitting up and crawling ect I find smaller babies quiet fragile I was even like this with my own , I didn't mean it wrong , how can I apologize or am I over thinking it
I didn't mean to offend them at all.
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How do I go out with my 11 week old?
Everyday I try to go out and thereās always something that stops me. For instance he didnāt sleep well at night or early morning today. He was awake for a couple of hours, so overtired. My mum came to go out but then he finally went to sleep, so we waited for that. He woke up after 30 mins. Then I fed him and he was a bit fussy. He has reflux so needed to burp and hold for 20 mins. Then I went to change his nappy and get him changed into going out clothes. He then brought up all his milk and was crying his eyes out. I couldnāt settle him, by this time it had already been over 2 hours and my mum had to leave. I could only settle him by feeding and now heās fallen asleep again.
His wake windows are fairly short after Iāve fed for around 30-40mins. I need to burp in between.
Do I just take a crying baby out? He hates the car seat and the pram.
Do you miss naps? I thought an overtired baby doesnāt sleep well at night and thatās already bad.
What do you do? Any advice or tips?
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