How do I go out with my 11 week old?

Everyday I try to go out and there’s always something that stops me. For instance he didn’t sleep well at night or early morning today. He was awake for a couple of hours, so overtired. My mum came to go out but then he finally went to sleep, so we waited for that. He woke up after 30 mins. Then I fed him and he was a bit fussy. He has reflux so needed to burp and hold for 20 mins. Then I went to change his nappy and get him changed into going out clothes. He then brought up all his milk and was crying his eyes out. I couldn’t settle him, by this time it had already been over 2 hours and my mum had to leave. I could only settle him by feeding and now he’s fallen asleep again.

His wake windows are fairly short after I’ve fed for around 30-40mins. I need to burp in between.

Do I just take a crying baby out? He hates the car seat and the pram.
Do you miss naps? I thought an overtired baby doesn’t sleep well at night and that’s already bad.

What do you do? Any advice or tips?

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If you're feeling up to it, id go out, he will get used to it and adjust slowly. It will probably be stressful for u and not enjoyable but thats how it is in the first few months. Things get easier in time but I understand it can be difficult.

Does he settle and have easier days or is he like this all the time?

Also I have to apologise if my feedback seems negative. Ive had a really difficult time but it does get easier, they are just so small and this world is all new to them.

I hope u enjoy a nice day out together soon xx

We found it best to go out when he’s sleep, so change feed, pop into car/carrier/pram and then he’d fall asleep for the most time we was out

i just go out, mine isn't the best of sleepers anyways so we go with the flow. your baby might surprise you.

I find it easier to get out if I’ve got everything prepared.
So have a bag packed (as much as you can ahead of time)
Babies outfit out and ready and your outfit out and ready.
Pick where you’re gonna go, somewhere that you’re motivated to go to like fave coffee shop.

I find having everything ready and decided made it easier for me to transition between the comfort and safety of home to the outside world.

Using a carrier helped me get out a lot too.
My baby didn’t like the bassinet part of our pram and it took a few attempts to get her happy in the chair part but the carrier was the true saviour. Xx

I’d get him out too, parenting is easier outside! Having said that, I remember the anxiety of trying to get out the door… ‘oh look a poo explosion!’ Get everything ready the night before so all you have to get ready is yourself and the baby xx

This sounds like my life, reflux and not being able to lie him down without throwing up. He hates the car seat until I start walking him or driving, initially he cried but he eventually falls asleep with his dummy. have you given it abit of time ? It sounds awful but mine has worked himself that up before he’s cried himself to sleep from being overtired. X

Just go out !!! He will nap while your out x

I've had 3 babies. My youngest is 11 months.
Don't over think it. Just go out x

At 11 weeks old he's not getting over tired y as he's too young to fit into a routine

It’s really hard to get out of the house! Be kind to yourself. ♥️

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