Independent time
How do you encourage independent time to play or draw etc? I find myself leading activities for my little one and then they are reliant on me to do rather than exploring themselves. I'm trying to adopt a 'let them lead' style but not having much luck.
Could it be the toys, the activities, me?
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Very morning I ask my little one what she’d like to do today. At the minute it’s often either “play playdoh, see nana or go shop”.
I also have her choose between two different items of clothing when she gets dressed, she has started requesting different clothing before I give her options recently.
We are at a point where she choses 90% of the things we do, to get there I’ve sort of let her get bored, and figure out what she wants to do on her own.
I also have the “do jobs” activity. Where some times I actually have stuff to do, some times I don’t. But i say I have to “do jobs”’and she knows it basically mean I’m going to be busy. She knows what the job is and where in the house n I’m going to be. Some times she follows me some time she doesn’t.
I also mostly have two meal options for her all the time, and let her chose between the two.I have all of her plates/ cups/ cutlery in a pull out drawer that she can reach, and I get her to get them and pass them up to me.
This is extremely helpful! Thank you so much for relying
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