Advice

Ummmm they should never have said that to you!

Remaining calm is important for you during labour as much as you can anyway but I was allllllllll over the place during my labour 😂 I could barely stand a blood test but 'managed' 9hrs of back to back labour with no pain relief. I was up down, rolling over, bouncing etc...dont worry about it, by the time I had an epidural I had the same worry about moving but your birth partner and midwife can help you get into and stay in position.

I did a Hypno birthing course which was excellent for calm techniques!

There is no way to explain what happens during labour your body takes over and everyone is different but you will be fine and your midwife will help and guide you.

Things that helped me, breathing, music, scent but they all helped at different points, just shout out what you need and let everyone run around after you haha.

You've got this! X

I think the whole process of labor and delivery is a lot different than being felt up by a relative stranger. I had a c section and I shake when I’m nervous but this still did not interfere with the anesthesiologist being able to place the spinal. I had great nursing staff who held my hand and coached me through breathing. Then it was over before I knew it. People who say things like that are same who assume Pap smears should feel the same as sex. You’ll have so many hormones helping. Movement is actually incredibly benefit for progressing labor along. Your body was built for this.

As someone that’s had 3 natural births and only gas and air as pain relief, and due their 4th in February. You do move about while in labour and it’s completely normal, 1 your body is getting ready to push out an entire human being, 2 your trying to get comfortable and 3 you have no control how your body reacts during labour. So for them to say that they clearly have never had kids. You have got this and good luck , if you see her again before baby is born and she makes the same remarks I would be complaining