2 week old with NO NAME!!! HELP.
My last IVF baby after 8 years on the journey to get my 3 boys (all donor concieved).
I really have been connected to the name Tane (tah-ne) for cultural reasons (maori backgorund) but also because I have carried the name through my whole IVF journey and wanted to call my first son this name.
Fast forward to my 3rd son and I would like to call my 3rd child this name as it will be my last child I will be carrying.
My partner wants to call him Ari and started a massive fight in hopsital 2 days PP saying I will never be able to call the child that name.
I now have an un named 2 week old son and its starting to really get me down. I feel like I can't bring up the topic or speak about it without a massive fight and i feel so fragile atm im afraid I will just give in.
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Why don't you name him Tane Ari as a first middle name. š¤·š»āāļø Partner can call him by his middle name and you can call him by his first. When he gets old enough he can figure out which name he wants to go by.
Could you merge the names somehow?
8 years is a long time was your partner like this with all your kids names. If this name means so much to you shouldn't your partner want that. Also middle names are not nothing I use family names for middle names with my kids. It means a lot to me to incorporate mine and my husband's families. Our first has a name from both sides. Our second is going to have my dads middle name and our third will have a middle name from my husband's side (if we have 3)
Firstly, I love Tane. It's a really gorgeous name. I was wondering, though, has your partner ever agreed to it, or is this an out of the blue change on his part?
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2 week old with NO NAME!!! HELP.
My last IVF baby after 8 years on the journey to get my 3 boys (all donor concieved).
I really have been connected to the name Tane (tah-ne) for cultural reasons (maori backgorund) but also because I have carried the name through my whole IVF journey and wanted to call my first son this name.
Fast forward to my 3rd son and I would like to call my 3rd child this name as it will be my last child I will be carrying.
My partner wants to call him Ari and started a massive fight in hopsital 2 days PP saying I will never be able to call the child that name.
I now have an un named 2 week old son and its starting to really get me down. I feel like I can't bring up the topic or speak about it without a massive fight and i feel so fragile atm im afraid I will just give in.
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