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May 2026 Babies 🇬🇧

Advice and help needed

Hi everyone, my baby is 13 weeks old. I have always felt that things have been up and down some good days and weeks and some not so good but this last week I have been finding myself struggling more than ever. I have cried every single day I just feel very overwhelmed. I’m so so so tired. My husband works all day so I’m on my own every day though I do have visitors like my in-laws and my parents only live around the corner so I go and see them quite a lot. I do try and get out for walks and I do try and keep myself busy but a lot of the time it feels like I’m just going through the motions, he’s around in the evenings and I get a little bit of a break. I also do every overnight so all of the feeds and changes throughout the night. One of the things I’m struggling most with is I’m really struggling with myself confidence as a mother, my baby will cry for 20 or 25 minutes. I will try everything I can and nothing will work and I won’t be able to calm her and I will just start crying and get really overwhelmed. I feel like other mums wouldn’t get so overwhelmed so quickly and it makes me feel like I’m rubbish and I lack patience and resilience. I’ve heard of mums whose babies cry for hours and hours upon end and I feel a bit pathetic that I can’t even hear my baby cry for 20 or 25 minutes without falling apart, I can’t work out if I have some postpartum depression or if I’m just really struggling with the reality of being a Mum and struggling with the tiredness et cetera that go with it.