Do you get help financially from husband?

This is I guess what we are all going through 😔 it is the hardest and most uncomfortable thing to do- ASKING FOR MONEY🥹 i also need some advice on that

Yes, I do. It’s not his and my money, it’s just all ours. I have access to all the accounts and just use my own card on the joints.

When I was on maternity leave I put everything in the pot and just used what I needed.

Now I’m a SAHM, he puts into my private pension monthly and my savings/bonds.

The end goal is to retire together with joint assets and investments and live a long life. Makes no sense to have one half of the team struggling and then suffering in later life.

Hey Sarah, I think many women are struggling on how to have that conversation where they could get their monthly allowance. Because unless they get asked not many men want to send.

I’m a stay at home mum and my partner pays all the bills including mine. We don’t have set money for each of us it just goes in one account and we both spend from that. I have said a few times I’m happy to work and contribute to the bills but he would rather i stay with my son as we have No alternative form of childcare and if I were working our son would have to go nursery full time which would cost near enough my entire wage

I’m sorry but this is so foreign to me. Not only in my own relationship, but even for all my relatives. I don’t understand how you go into a marriage not being able to trust that your spouse will help take care of you. My husband’s money is mine. We’re a team.

Here I come with the unpopular but very reasonable opinion.

Short answer: yes, expect your husband to “help”, AKA pay for everything.

Long answer:

1) In marriage, there is no “my money, your money, my debt, your debt”. Just like there’s no “my hardship, your hardship”. Marriage is only “us and ours”.

His money is yours, your money is his. Just like your debt, your hardship, your success is his.

I know it sounds like communism, lol, but that is the design for marriage like God intended it to be.

2) On a more traditional note, as the man he is expected to pay for your every need, as long as it’s reasonable. You are not expected to do the same for him. As the woman I believe you can be his dependent, but not vice versa.

You might think these beliefs are archaic. I used to think that, too, but over the years both my husband and I realised that this is the only sustainable, functional design for marriage.

It also helped us to go from totally atheistic to reading the Bible.