Do you yell at your kids?

I also grew up in a Hispanic household where yelling/ being loud was the norm. Just because it’s common doesn’t mean it’s okay. Now as an adult I’ve noticed how it has contributed to my anxiety. I’m striving to not create that type of environment for my children.

There was a time as a kid where I stole, lied, acted out to “get back” at my parents over trivial things that seemed huge to me . I would absolutely yell at me and even pop me on the hands/mouth for acting that way. I still remember why I did the things I did, the rush, the lie ready to go before I was even caught. Not finishing my meal, knocking a cup of juice over, struggling on my school work. Now those were things i did not need to get yelled at for.

I still do quite some yelling, but I am improving my self control. I know it’s not helpful to yell, and I want my children to be choosing to listen and do the right thing, not to do it because of fear. But it of course is hard to develop the skills you weren’t taught as a child now