Do I have a right to be upset? /is my husband wrong or am I ?

So this past week our 5 month old daughter has bin getting up only ONE TIME in the middle of the night for a bottle and rocking back to sleep. (She is a easy baby it takes nothing longer than 10 maybe 25 minutes to get her down) well he’ll get up go get her from her grave and then I’ll go sleep on our couch and co sleep with her. We have a two year-old who also brought into our bed when he was younger because it was easier for him to do nights when he was in our bed.. I never wanted to co sleep I don’t like co sleeping its dangerous but im most afraid he is going to build up my daughter to be dependent on going to sleep contact you get me. I’ve told him over and over I don’t like you co sleeping with her bc he doesn’t even follow the safety 7 it’s dangerous and I think he’s being lazy. All he says is im going to do what gets me the most sleep. On another note tho he doesn’t bother me and lets me sleep he handles nights 85% of the time so I feel like I can’t complain either cause he doesn’t complain and is just trying to find something that works for him but idk guys I don’t feel like it’s safe the way he sleeps with her and I think she will eventually grow harder to put down bc of the contact sleeping at night.. he says well she stays asleep tho like yea no shit that’s why parents co sleep to get that rest but I just personally don’t believe in it I think it’s lazy parenting please don’t come at me for it but idk guys is my husband wrong or am I ? 😭😭😭😭😭😭😖

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I don't think it's lazy parenting.
My daughter always slept in a next to me crib, when she outgrew it we moved her to the cot, she was an alright sleeper until around 9months when she constantly woke up. My partner and I were so tired we eventually started co-sleeping despite not liking the idea, not out of laziness, but because we were so tired and needed to function somehow.

Admittedly she did get a bit too used to being in our bed and we did transition her back to her cot.

My daughter is three months old and me and my husband have both refused to co sleep, I can go into very deep sleep and my husband works such long hours driving for most of its driving so it be dangerous for him to loose sleep, my daughter will wake up once for a bottle sometimes at night then after a gentle rock will go back into the next to me crib fine, when my husbands gone will sometimes come in bed to sleep on me while I read or something but we do more out of fear for our child because she was premature

I don't quite understand. You said you co-sleep on the couch yet he is the one co-sleeping incorrectly?

Also, how is he co-sleeping that is unsafe?

It is NOT lazy parenting, that is a damaging view. Parents need sleep and if done safely it can be wonderful.

I wouldn't trade co-sleeping with my little man for anything. He sleeps in his own bed now most of the night (4.5) and has for awhile now but often comes in to our in the early hours of the morning. Often now, when my partner leaves for work.

I cannot imagine not wanting to snuggle my baby to sleep while I can.

So I think you arr both wrong.

We've coslept with 2 out of 3 kids. Originally due to being tired parents and needing the sleep. Then it turned into us being their comfort. Weve just done one full night of my older kids sleeping in their room but if the kids woke they got offered our bed and a cuddle.
Co sleeping done right is amazing. Builds bonds but done wrong and it's dangerour

Co-sleeping is the most natural way to sleep with your baby. All mammals do it. To say it’s lazy is wrong. The only reason people started putting their babies in cots is because they have to go to work the next day, it’s unnatural for your baby to be separate from you.

Independent sleep is built on feeling secure while sleeping.

Theres nothing lazy about physical closeness. Human bodies are biologically wired to be more comfortable & secure when doing a vulnerable activity like sleeping, near another warm body.

There are some potential risks associated with cosleeping, technically, but realistically co-sleeping is how humans have slept for the vast majority of human history over all of the time that humans have existed, so I dunno how much I buy into it being so dangerous, personally.

https://www.npr.org/sections/goatsandsoda/2018/05/21/601289695/is-sleeping-with-your-baby-as-dangerous-as-doctors-say

Lazy parenting to co sleep is the dumbest thing I've ever heard. USA/Canada and the UK are not the center of the earth. Everyone else Co sleeps.

Im on your side on this but we also never co slept with our daughter and don't plan to with our son. It's what fits your baby and everyone's needs. If safety is the main concern I feel he should be a little more understanding and work with you. 🤷‍♀️ ❤️

Just a question 🙋🏼‍♀️, why does he do the night feeds & not you ?
I don’t like co-sleeping just because it’s not something I could do out of fear of squashing my baby & I also like my own space when I sleep lol 😂
And I’d also worry about having a Velcro baby at night lol last thing I’d want haha but each to their own

Cosleeping is not lazy parenting.

No one should be sleeping on a sofa with a baby or young child that’s really dangerous. I can’t work out from your post who is sleeping where?

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