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I have a 20 month old and he does not listen to me at all. How do I fix this? I know he understands what I say.

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I think it may be an age thing my 19 month old thinks its funny to put her fingers in her ears and laugh 🤯 all the time. Im hoping it is just a phase and it doesn't last until she turns 18 lol

Same boat, it’s normal for the age

Same same . Consistency is key .It really helps to always explain the "why" as well and not just to say "no". That is where the reasoning begins

I’ve tried and it doesn’t work every one says he has no respect for me it’s been this way for months

Completely normal for the age. I’ve noticed that some days my son wants to listen and some days he doesn’t. I think it’s just because their age lacks impulse control so it’s not necessarily an act of defiance, just comes with the age I guess. Just make sure that you’re following through with discipline. For example if my son isn’t listening to me and staying close to me in public then I say “You need to listen or mama has to carry you” and if he doesn’t listen to I carry him. If he throws a fit about me carrying him I say “we’re going to leave if you behave that way” and then we leave if we have to. You’re doing the best you can, toddlerhood is HARD girl. 😅

My 19 month old doesn’t listen unless we give him a task.

We have him throw stuff away for us or put stuff up in his room or have him help clean up his toys. I think it’s just the age where you have to direct the excess energy into something productive.

He doesn't have to listen. Lol. Mine doesn't listen all the time.

Praise praise praise positive behavior. Praise praise praise listening.

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