Dummy cold turkey
So my little girl hits 4 months tomorrow and for some reason I've decided now is the time I'm cutting the dummy habbit cold turkey.
We've got through today with lots of crying on her part and patience on mine but I'm questioning everything!
Nap 1-I tried to bounce/rock/tap for 20 mins then we reset with 5 mins outside before dad had a go then aborted mission and went for a drive. (50 min nap)
Nap 2- More successful Bouncing and tapping then blasting pink noise and blowing on her face whilst laid on my bed. (2 hour nap with a breast feeding rescue after 45 mins)
Nap 3- Went for an almost 2 hour walk with the pram for her to sleep all of 30 mins
Nap 4- tried the car again for her to scream you the point of choking then breast fed to sleep at home (30 min nap)
Then after trying all the usual tricks ive resorted to breastfeeding to sleep tonight for mine and her sanity.
Am I creating another issue with feeding to sleep or is it completely natural for this age and breast fed babies to be fed to sleep and is it something that can be broken as she used to sleep 8 hours before Waking for a feed but she wants her dummy replacing too often in thr night now and I dont want feeding to be the only thing to settle here back down if she wakes more in the night without her dummy.
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It may just be the 4 month regression. Why do you want to go cold turkey on the dummy? I think it's normal for them to feed to sleep. Does she suck her thumb?
I used to feed mine to sleep ans it definitely doesn't last forever. Just be mindful that removing the dummy at that age could lead her to suck her thumb to self soothe instead, which is worse for their teeth and soft palette. You could try dummy for nap and sleep only and remove it during wake periods? My son is 3 and still has one to go to bed, I don't think it'll be long until he doesn't want it naturally but just starting preschool and toilet training I didn't want to remove that and add another stressor for him.
What are you reasons for wanting to give up feeding to sleep and having a dummy?
I personally think (at this age, but less so as they grow up obvs) that more harm can be done than good. Those instincts are natural. So unless you are prepared to offer nipple for comfort every single time baby wants a dummy, you're depriving them of a natural thing
My 4 month old little boy feeds to sleep, he also uses a dummy to settle to sleep during the day. I just make sure he doesn’t use it while he’s awake, I tend to give him teething toys instead as everything’s going into his mouth at the moment!
I wonder whether it would be worth you cutting out the dummy for one nap at a time first rather than cold turkey? Dummy’s also do reduce the risk of SIDS during the first six months of life, so it may not be a bad thing if she has it overnight for now until you’ve cut it out completely in the day?
I’m also pretty sure at 4 months old they haven’t actually got the ability to get into bad habits as such, they just start to realise what they prefer. They do also go through a sleep regression and a major developmental leap, meaning that they rely on comforts more consistently. Perhaps there are so many plates being spun at the moment that you shouldn’t pressure yourself too much to cut the dummy out completely, that’s a lot of work xx
It’s biologically normal for a baby to feed to sleep. Remember a dummy was made to mimic the breast x
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