I don’t know if he is just a man doing a man thing but I genuinely want to STRANGLE HIM. I am still working full time- 31weeks now and i’m BEYOND EXHAUSTED. I’ve fallen asleep at my desk twice this week, waddle around everywhere just to then be struck with back pain, hip pain, stomach pain— my thighs are hurting? didnt even realise thats a thing. I get home and literally burst into tears pretty much daily, i cry in the bath and then get straight into bed and all he does is try to rationalise to me saying, it’s not that long now or I know it’s hard. I don’t really know what i want from him but i just feel like he’s taken for granted that i’ve had to grow this MASSIVE melon baby for him for 7 months already and i’ll i get is awww i know it’s hard????? i’m not on mat leave for another 5 weeks and genuinely the idea of going to work to waddle around the office like an overinflated teddy bear makes me want to throw myself down the stairs. I completely understand i’m hormonal and i am so excited to meet my daughter but this man is testing my limits in ways i didnt even know he could. He does massage my back and cooks everyday and he works a VERY busy schedule. so maybe i am being selfish but i’m also a bit like… this is your baby too and you just want me to suffer in silence?? when i’m crying he tells me i’m hormonal or to go to sleep but genuinely i think i’m losing my mind help
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I’m pregnant too and honestly I really feel for you 😭🤍 By this stage the exhaustion and pain can be absolutely relentless, and I don’t think you’re selfish for wanting more than “aww it’s hard.” It sounds like he is helping practically, but what you’re craving is empathy rather than him trying to rationalise it. I’d literally tell him, “I don’t need you to fix it or remind me it’s nearly over, I just need you to acknowledge that I’m struggling and comfort me.” Also, falling asleep at work and crying every day sounds like you’re completely burnt out, so I’d mention it to your midwife/GP and ask about work adjustments too. And if the “throw myself down the stairs” thought is more than just frustration, please tell someone straight away 🤍

I second the advice for speaking to your GP, they can put a fit note with formal instructions of working conditions required. For example, working from home, reduced hours, reduced days. Non of which should affect your pay. In a worst case you can get signed off until Mat leave with pregnancy related stress ❤️. Your husband sounds well meaning but you need real support and things in place to help you cope. Pregnancy is no joke!
I’ve come to realise that my partner is a narcissist. I don’t know why I was blind to this before but I feel so trapped.
Our son is 18 months old. We don’t live together as his flat is too small for all of us, and he refuses to move to mine. He comes up with any excuse possible not to come over and help, and even when he does, its like he gets bored of ‘babysitting’ after only 20 minutes, while I do household chores. I never get chance to do these when I’m home alone, so on the few times he does come round, I need to make use of the time. He then blames the fact that I go to some baby classes for 1 hour, twice a week, for the reason he never gets to see his son.
Currently, we all have a stomach flu. He didn’t stay at mine last night so I was up with the baby all night. He called this morning and asked how we were. I explained I had been up all night and asked if he was coming round to help me. He said ‘I just need a few more hours sleep, I’ve only had 6 and I’m shattered’. No regard for me whatsoever?
I always thought I would end up with this guy and having more babies, but now this scares me (but I desperately want a second child). I can’t imagine him prioritising me during a c-section and allowing me to have skin to skin etc (he was not present at my first birth due to disagreements during pregnancy. Every time I said anything to him about me needing more support, he would give me every excuse under the sun and say he was ‘defending himself’). He constantly goes on about things being ‘fair’ when he’s here (as in, when our baby was a newborn, he wanted to come round and hold the baby for the whole time, as ‘this was the only time he got to see the baby’, which was his own fault and meant I missed out on this experience. He also used to come round for a few hours in the afternoon after he’d had a lie in and NEVER stayed for a night to help with the feeds😊😊😊). When it comes to Christmas and Birthdays etc he insists on being present and me making sure the plans line up with his sleep schedule etc (he doesn’t wake up until 11-12 most days and my baby is up at 6. He wants me to hold celebrations off until he is awake which is unreasonable, but then says things like ‘you always make me miss out’).
I feel so trapped. My son has my surname as a double barrel and he constantly goes on about this being unfair as baby should have the dads surname, yet he shows no interest in actually helping. When we are on good terms, he makes every excuse not to see our son, but whenever we argue he says ‘maybe we should just go to court and agree 50/50 custody’. Then we are on good terms again and he doesn’t come and see him for days/weeks at a time, and is perfectly happy to go on holiday for 2-3 weeks at a time with friends. He doesn’t even have much of an idea how to care for our sons needs so this scares me so much. When he comes to see the baby he can’t seem to keep him entertained, and always ends up putting on a show for the baby to watch. He also constantly berates me about the fact that we don’t have sex much. But I don’t understand when he thinks this is possible when the only time he is here is during the day when the baby is awake. He says he is always lonely because I don’t make the effort for our relationship.
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My husband wants to go Scotland for a friends wedding. I'm guessing I'd be less than a month post partum possible couple of weeks. We have a a 5 year old.
He wants to go. I don't want him to go but I said he is an adult he needs to make the decision himself but he knows where I stand.
Am I wrong to thinn he shouldn't be travelling for a wedding that soon. He would need to be away for 2 days.
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I am honestly livid and don’t know if I’m overreacting tbh but now I’m just thinking well F that and I won’t bother with his bday.
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My son’s dad is just embarrassing. I get that he works but every Friday night he gets plastered drunk and then doesn’t eat well I just woke up to pump for my MOTN pump and I found my sons dad curled up on the damn dog bed with the dog passed out drunk. Like bro that’s so embarrassing, I would’ve been pissed if my son would’ve found him like that and than earlier I asked him very nicely to not start the side by side cuz it was right outside the bedroom window where our son was sleeping and what did this damn idiot do he started it which woke our son up and then he goes why would I listen to you like are you freaking kidding me. Freaking 11pm and you started a side by side cuz you’re drunk and wanna go on a ride in the woods and then he came back inside and I told him that cross gotta stop and he said I’m not allowed to get mad at him and if I continue to get mad at him than he’s gonna take away our sons new car seat. Like dude are you kidding me.
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Does anyone know the policy in Uk preschool/ nurseries in a school? We have a couple of holidays booked - a centre parcs trip mon- fri in November and another for the first week back in Jan (both booked before he started) he is 3 x
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My baby is 12 months old now and I usually feed her by putting bite size pieces of food on to her tray one by one. I noticed that if I put more than one piece of food she will try put all pieces in her mouth at the same time.. 😆
Just wondering what other parents do - are you able to put a full plate of food in front of your baby and they will work away at it themselves?

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