Pre school?
Hey mommas! š My son just turned 3 in July, and Iām really debating enrolling him in preschool. Heās never been in daycare or away from me for an extended period, so Iām definitely a nervous momma. š
Iād love to hear other momsā experiences with starting preschool around age 3! What was the transition like for your little one? Did they have a hard time with drop-off? How long did it take them to adjust? And what should I expect as a first-time preschool mom?
Iām excited about the socialization and everything heāll get to learn, but Iām also having ALL the mom anxiety about leaving my baby. š„¹š
Would love to hear the good, the bad, and anything you wish you knew before starting preschool! ā¤ļø
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I just sent my July baby, he's 2 weeks in. He did fine at the first day dropoff. But he has cried and every dropoff and pickup since. He goes 3 days a week, so it isn't full time.
Expect your kid to get sick! My son has a fever and a stuffed up nose currently.
But honestly I'd rather deal with all this now than when he goes to kindy.
We just enrolled our baby girl (whoās also never been away from either of us except 10 total hours my dad when my husband and I went to a wedding and a concert) into a 3 hour a day/ 3 day a week preschool program through the city we live in. The first day she was distracted and the next two days she clung to me but then saw her toys out. Itās from 9-12 and she usually gets antsy with us around 11 so theyāve had to redirect her a couple of times but sheās enjoyed it. I wasnāt ready for a full day and donāt think she needs to be inside all day yet. Itās a wonderful balance and itās month to month with the option to check out other programs to see what works best for her learning style and schedule. Try it when you are ready. I donāt leave the area, I study near by. My mama heart/tether is NOT ready yet lol
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