2nd baby - advise!!!

Hello mamas,
I just wanted to ask for advise really.. from the mothers who got more than 1 baby.

So we are thinking about 2nd baby 🙈 plan would be to start trying in the few months so if everything goes well by the time 2nd baby will come into the world, baby number 1 would be 2 years old.
Originally we wanted 2-3 years gap but I’m 32 this month and I’m little bit worried about being ‘too old’ 🫠

What are the pros and cons having babies with such a ‘small’ gap between?
Would you recommend it?
What challenges we will definitely go through?

Thank you! x

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Im pregnant with our second baby, the age gap would be around 15-16 months between them so quite a small age gap. We both decided on how nice it would be for them to grow up with each other, especially so close in age there more likely to be into similar things and planning things for the family would be so much easier, definitely like a little best friend relationship for them both! The older one could always get involved with the baby to build a stronger bond and so they wouldn’t feel left out. It definitely seems like it’s gonna be hard juggling a toddler and then a newborn at the same time but despite that when you get into bed at the end of the day you wouldn’t change it. I’d 100% do what you and your partner feel suits your family more. Good luck🤍xx

I would say at the start with both its hard as you're yet to find a rhythm that fits both kids. As the baby gets older definitely gets easier. My eldest was about to turn 3 by the time i had my second and they are the best of friends. She plays with all his toys now shes crawling about 😂 personally would have liked to have the 2nd one earlier whilst he was abit younger but he was a C section baby and i was put off with the wait of 18months between initially, then life got in the way to think about it.

2nd baby has severe FOMO so hard on nap times but between me and my husband we take a child each and have done since she arrived. Definitely easier when its shared care

My SIL was 36 when she had her 2nd so dont get caught up with age, do it when you feel is right for you and your family x

I dont have anything to add except I'm 37 and only had my first in November, 32 isn't old 😂

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