Pregnant but had a miscarriage before
Yesterday I went to 711 and we know the Indian lady there and I haven’t seen her in awhile and she looked at me and said “wow how many kids do you have I thought one of them was dead” and now since then and me being 7 months pregnant all I’m thinking about is my miscarriage it’s like those feelings came up again and then today my husband said with that pregnancy the one of my miscarriage my hormones were so bad I always had an attitude and complaining to him it was like I didn’t wanna be pregnant and I told him it was because I didn’t think I’d get pregnant that fast and I wasn’t ready and now I feel like the miscarriage was all my fault. My son tells me he has a sister and brother and I’m pregnant with a boy not a girl and now I’m like what if the sister he’s talking about was the baby I miscarried in January of this year and I just can’t help but think it was all my fault. So now I’m crying on the bathroom floor and my son who’s 3 next month is trying to comfort me in anyway he can. I feel like such a bad mom.
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Be strong. Not for yourself but for your family. I had a abortion i was 9 weeks gone and I think about it all the time I have 6m son and I know how it feels. I felt I had a girl but it happens. It brings back pain but pain gives strength 💪
It’s not your fault. When I was pregnant all I could think of was the miscarriages I had and a guilty towards them that I was happy to have a healthy baby boy. Feelings come and go. Unfortunately that pain won’t pass and guilt but try to think of the joy your baby will always want you to have.
Your a not a bad mom. Something I always try to remind myself anytime I’m feeling that way, is that the fact you are feeling bad or questioning if you’re a good mom just goes to prove how great of a mom you really are. A good mom wouldn’t question every step she takes or every feeling she has to make sure her kids are happy and taken care of. The miscarriage can NOT be your fault off of attitude or mood swings. Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for something you can’t control. As a woman, they’ll never understand. Stay strong honey ♥️
if that's someone you see regularly, check it, but not emotionally because she didn't have to say that, not the way she did and i get different ethnicities have different ways to communicate but that's not okay at all.
i terminated a pregnancy, i now have a 3 year old. I think about the what ifs but i was intentional so ive dealt with it and when it comes up, I just feel move forward.
Your son knows his sister cause their hearts are connected. That's something to cry joyous tears about because to a certain extent he understands 🥰
Sending virtual love
idk what it is about ppl talking crazy when you're pregnant, re-reading this just ready upset, cause, lady(in lieu of all of the other bad words my brain conjured), WTF were you thinking?!
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