when does the spark come back?
I have lost all spark. Right before i found out i was pregnant, i had just hit my goal weight of 160lbs from 300lbs in just under a year. Since then, i have gained some weight back but really don’t know how since i eat the same. I am the sole caregiver 6/7 days a week and have so much stress and exhaustion from working full time, online school, door dashing (for extra cash), and being mom and dad most of the time as my husband works evenings but doesn’t help me much with anything else. I feel like i’m running on fumes and just want to be the best for my boy! he’s all i care about. i’ve lost all care about myself. how do i feel like a women again. idek now.
yes i know, my husband sucks.
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Aww, sorry to hear you’re going through this, hun. I’ve noticed since having my baby 4 months ago that I gain weight so easily now also and it’s so much harder to lose weight now than before. It’s our hormones and all the metabolic changes that come with being postpartum (especially if you’re breastfeeding), which changes how our bodies store fat.
The only thing that has worked for me are these delicious shakes I saw on instagram that are kind of like meal replacements, except they’re packed with nutrients. You mix them with water or milk (I use water, they’re already quite rich and I’m not trying to add more calories) and they’re 242 calories, so you replace them with 2 meals a day (I have them for breakfast and lunch and have my real dinner). They put you at a calorie deficit, which helps you lose weight, while tasting really good.
Let me know if you’d like the link to the shakes x
Sadly, you need to assign him chores to do in the house. It is not fair that you are handling all that stress. Write out all the chores and make him pick some. You guys are supposed to be a unit. At this point, it seems like you are a married single mother. I wouldn’t find a man attractive either if he wasn’t helping me out either. I’d drive that point home.
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