Abusive bd,, what was the final straw because im constantly getting bruised and choked up but idk how to move forward i work pt and cannot afford a place of my own right now

I would look into dv support and shelters for battered women and children. It might not be ideal but at least you will be safe.

You make police report, call lawyers, learn your rights, call local DV shelters to see what kind of resources you can have. Get your head in the game cause this is gonna be a lot. You can process the emotions when everything‘s done but right now you need to think about keeping you and your kid(s) safe. Which includes not telling him anything. Maybe even talk to lawyer first if this is not active situation. So they can direct you on the order of getting things done. Some of them offer free consultations. But don’t stay. Don’t let this keep you stuck. You were in a dangerous situation right now. Your kid(s) need you. You can do this just be smart about it.